What Cape are you wearing?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When someone asks you for help, your first instinct is to…
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- A.
  Say yes—even if I’m exhausted.
- B.
  Step up and do it better than anyone else.
- C.
  Handle it myself—I don’t want to bother anyone else.
2.
How do you usually respond when you’re overwhelmed?
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- A.
  I hide it and keep smiling so I don’t disappoint others.
- B.
  I push harder and prove I can still deliver.
- C.
  I stay silent and keep going—it’s what’s expected.
3.
What’s your biggest fear if you slow down?
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- A.
  People won’t like me or they’ll be disappointed.
- B.
  I’ll lose credibility or be seen as weak/incompetent.
- C.
  My family/community will fall apart without me.
4.
When you're sick or not feeling well, you…
- A.
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  Push through and take care of everyone else anyway—they still need you.
- B.
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  Work from home or power through because you can't afford to fall behind.
- C.
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  Don't tell anyone and handle it quietly—you don't want to be a burden.
5.
How do you respond when someone offers to help you?
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- A.
  "Oh no, I've got it! I don't want to trouble you."
- B.
  "Thanks, but I can handle it"—you worry they won't do it right.
- C.
  You're genuinely confused because you're not used to receiving help.
6.
What's your relationship with the word "selfish"?
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- A.
  It's my worst fear—I never want anyone to think I'm selfish.
- B.
  I worry that prioritizing myself means I'm not working hard enough.
- C.
  I was taught that putting myself first IS selfish—so I don't.
7.
How do you handle it when family members make financial requests or need money?
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- A.
  Say yes even when it stretches you thin—you don't want them to struggle or be upset with you.
- B.
  Feel pressure to help because you're "the successful one" who "made it."
- C.
  Take care of it without hesitation because that's your role—you're the provider/safety net.
8.
What's your inner dialogue when you make a mistake?
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- A.
  "I'm such a failure. Everyone's going to be disappointed in me."
- B.
  "I can't believe I messed up—I know better. I have to fix this immediately."
- C.
  "I should have handled this better. I can't let anyone see me struggling."
9.
When you think about your childhood, you remember…
- A.
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  Being praised for being "so helpful" and "such a good girl" when you took care of others.
- B.
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  Being told you had to be "twice as good" and represent your family/community well.
- C.
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  Learning early that you needed to be strong, responsible, and not cause problems.
10.
When you imagine a life without the cape, you feel…
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- A.
  Scared people won't need or love me anymore.
- B.
  Worried I'll lose my edge, relevance, or success.
- C.
  Guilty, like I'd be abandoning my responsibilities and letting people down.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
You are wearing the People Pleaser Cape.
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Your cape is made of "yes" — and it's costing you your peace.Sis, if you got this result, you're the dependable one. The fixer. The comforter. The woman everyone calls when they need something—and you almost never say no.You feel responsible for everyone else's happiness, even when it means sacrificing your own. Saying "no" feels impossible because you don't want to disappoint anyone or let them down. You apologize constantly, deflect compliments, and put everyone's needs before your own.But here's the truth: Behind that smile, you're exhausted, resentful, and invisible.You rarely pause to ask yourself: What makes ME happy?The Cost of the People-Pleaser Cape:• Chronic anxiety about disappointing others• Resentment toward the people you're constantly helping• Loss of your own identity, desires, and boundaries• Physical exhaustion from over-extending yourselfYour Journey to Becoming Cape-Free: You are worthy of joy, rest, and care—even if others are disappointed. Your "no" is a complete sentence. You don't have to earn love by being useful.What's Next?📖 Download Your Free Guide: "5 Boundary Scripts for the People-Pleaser" — Learn how to say no without guilt. 📧 Join the Cape-Free Community: Get real talk for Black women ready to retire the People-Pleaser cape. 📚 Ready to Go Deeper? My eBook Hanging Up the Cape will show you exactly how to break free from people-pleasing and reclaim your peace. [Coming soon]🎓 Want the Complete System? Join the waitlist for Hanging Up the Cape: The Course — a 12-module transformational program to help you retire your Superwoman act for good. [Coming soon]💬 Share Your Story: Comment on Instagram @CapeFreeMedia and tell me: What's the hardest part about being a People-Pleaser? Let's talk about it.Expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips. ✨
2.
You are wearing the Black Excellence Cape.
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Your cape is stitched with achievement — and it's wearing you down. Sis, if you got this result, you are the standard-bearer. The overachiever. The Talented Tenth. The one who shows the world that Black women are brilliant, capable, and unstoppable. You work twice as hard to get half as far. You're constantly striving to shatter stereotypes, prove your worth in spaces not built for you, and maintain impossibly high standards—for yourself and everyone watching. But here's the truth: You're exhausted, burnt out, and running on fumes. Even when you're empty, you push harder because slowing down feels like failure. Resting feels like letting your people down. You tie your worth to your accomplishments, and it's never enough. The Cost of the Black Excellence Cape: • Chronic burnout and physical health issues (high blood pressure, insomnia, stress) • Imposter syndrome and fear of being "found out" • Perfectionism that prevents you from enjoying your wins • Feeling like you can never rest or you'll lose everything you've worked for Your Journey to Becoming Cape-Free: You don't have to EARN rest, worthiness, or belonging. You already have them. Your value is not tied to your productivity. You are enough—even when you're doing nothing. What's Next? 📖 Download Your Free Guide: "The Burnout Recovery Plan for High-Achievers" — Practical steps to rest without guilt. [LINK] 📧 Join the Cape-Free Community: Get weekly emails with rest practices, anti-perfectionism tools, and encouragement for Black women ready to redefine success. 📚 Ready to Go Deeper? My eBook Hanging Up the Cape will help you break free from the performance trap and find fulfillment beyond achievement. [Coming soon] 🎓 Want the Complete System? Join the waitlist for Hanging Up the Cape: The Course — a 12-module program to help you retire the Black Excellence cape and embrace ease. [Coming soon] 💬 Share Your Story: Comment on Instagram @CapeFreeMedia and tell me: What does "enough" look like for you? Let's redefine success together. Expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨
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You are wearing the Strong Black Woman Cape.
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Your cape is woven with sacrifice — and it's costing you everything. Sis, if you got this result, you are the backbone. The rock. The one who carries everyone—your spouse, children, parents, extended family, community—on your shoulders without complaint. You do it all. You hold it all. And you never let anyone see you struggle because strength is your identity. You were taught that your role is to serve, endure, and sacrifice—and that asking for help or showing vulnerability is weakness. But here's the truth: You're exhausted, invisible, and resentful. You rarely consider your own needs or happiness because you've been conditioned to believe that caring for yourself is selfish. The Cost of the Strong Black Woman Cape: • Health issues (hypertension, diabetes, chronic stress-related illness) • Emotional isolation—nobody knows you're struggling • Resentment toward the people you're caring for • Loss of joy, rest, and your sense of self Your Journey to Becoming Cape-Free: Your value does NOT come from how much you can carry. You deserve to be cared for too. Asking for help is not weakness—it's wisdom. Rest is not selfish—it's survival. What's Next? 📖 Download Your Free Guide: "How to Ask for Help Without Feeling Guilty" — Scripts and strategies for the Strong Black Woman. [LINK] 📧 Join the Cape-Free Community: Get weekly emails with support for Black women ready to be human, not superhuman. 📚 Ready to Go Deeper? My eBook Hanging Up the Cape will show you how to release the burden of strength and reclaim your joy. [Coming soon] 🎓 Want the Complete System? Join the waitlist for Hanging Up the Cape: The Course — a 12-module transformational program to help you retire the Strong Black Woman cape for good. [Coming Soon] 💬 Share Your Story: Comment on Instagram @CapeFreeMedia and tell me: What would change if you let someone else hold you up for once? Let's talk. Expect to see me in your inbox with transformational tips ✨