Which Survival Habit Is Holding You Back?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  I find it hard to say “no,” even when I feel exhausted.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 2.
  Criticism or even neutral feedback makes me worried or tense.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 3.
  I make plans based on what others want, not what I truly need.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 4.
  When others are upset, I feel responsible to fix their emotions.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 5.
  I’m uncomfortable sharing vulnerability or expressing hurt feelings.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 6.
  I replay mistakes and push myself to “get it right.”

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 7.
  It’s easier to keep busy than to sit with my true feelings.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 8.
  I feel anxious when asking for help or delegating tasks.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 9.
  I stay calm on the surface, but inside I’m bracing.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 10.
  I regularly sacrifice my needs for my job, family, or friends.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 11.
  I feel invisible or unappreciated, even though I do so much.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 12.
  I avoid emotionally intense situations, even with people I care about.

  • A.
    Always
  • B.
    Often
  • C.
    Sometimes
  • D.
    Rarely
  • E.
    Never
• 13.
  Are you mostly seeking...

  • A.
    Healing from past difficulties or emotional pain
  • B.
    Tools and strategies for personal growth and decisive action
  • C.
    Both equally
• 14.
  Is daily life often disrupted by deep sadness, anxiety, or stress?

  • A.
    Yes, this is frequent and challenging
  • B.
    Sometimes but I manage
  • C.
    No, I mostly manage well
• 15.
  Would you most value...

  • A.
    Reflective space to process thoughts and feelings
  • B.
    Accountability and step-by-step growth support
  • C.
    Depends on the week

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Self-Sacrificer

  You may relate strongly to more than one survival habit. Many strong women carry several of these patterns—your experience is valid and worth honoring.Empathetic Reflection & Vulnerability:You show up for everyone, but often feel invisible when you need help most. In giving so much, you’ve taught the world that your needs come last—and you carry the ache of not being chosen back. There’s a whisper inside that quietly asks, “Who would show up if I finally let myself fall apart?”How It Shows Up:You overextend until empty, quietly resentful when no one asks how you’re really doing—or steps up for you. Sometimes you wonder if your only value is what you give, not who you are.A Compassionate Pause:Always putting others first can feel like the only way to hold on to love, worth, or even simple belonging—especially for women taught to ignore their needs. Research shows that persistent self-sacrifice can lead to exhaustion and a sense of invisibility, even as you keep everyone else afloat. You’re not alone: thousands of women have internalized the belief that their needs must come last. Today, give yourself permission to want something—anything—without the need to explain or earn it. Let that longing exist, just for you, even if it’s new or uncomfortable.Take Your Next Step:You’re not selfish for wanting rest or support. In fact, boundaries and asking for care are essential acts of real love and resilience. Coaching is here for women rewriting the script of self-sacrifice—creating lives where reciprocity is not a betrayal, but the foundation of deeper connection. Join the growing community that chooses themselves too; your healing makes room for others to do the same.Book a confidential consult now, while space is available, and begin the journey where care finally circles back to you. You belong in this conversation—and you’re safe to start today.
• 2.
  Approval Seeker

  You may relate strongly to more than one survival habit. Many strong women carry several of these patterns—your experience is valid and worth honoring.Empathetic Reflection & Vulnerability:You’re always attuned to the room—what they need, what they expect, how you can fit and please—while shrinking hopes, frustrations, or truths that could rock the boat. When approval is finally given, it feels both like relief and like another mask.How It Shows Up:You keep relationships afloat no matter the cost, secretly tracking facial expressions, words left unsaid. Every “good job” is welcome but fleeting; every letdown lingers.A Compassionate Pause:It’s human to long for acceptance. But Enoughness doesn’t come with prerequisites—it’s not something you earn or prove, but something you already possess, just by existing. Research shows that self-compassion and unconditional acceptance are vital to emotional health, even more than praise or achievement. Instead of waiting for outside validation, gently remind yourself today: "I am enough, as I am, without needing to measure up." You’re not alone in relearning this truth—thousands of accomplished women are navigating the same journey back to themselves.Take Your Next Step:Imagine living from a place of fundamental worthiness—no more performing or pleasing to receive love. Coaching offers the tools and support to anchor yourself in authentic, unconditional self-acceptance. You belong in a space where who you are is already enough.Book a judgment-free consult today and join a community rewriting the story of worth—starting now, just as you are.
• 3.
  Hyper-Independent

  You may relate strongly to more than one survival habit. Many strong women carry several of these patterns—your experience is valid and worth honoring.Empathetic Reflection & Vulnerability:Trust is heavy for you; needing feels unsafe, asking feels impossible. You’ve learned that self-reliance is a shield—so much so that sometimes even you don’t know what your vulnerability feels like anymore. Behind every accomplishment is the fear of being truly seen, let alone supported.How It Shows Up:You muscle through every obstacle alone, pride warring with quiet loneliness—a hunger for support that feels dangerous to voice.A Compassionate Pause:That armor of doing-it-all once kept you safe in a world that demanded strength above all else. Science shows that fiercely self-reliant women often learned to mask wants and needs to avoid disappointment or letdowns. But today, you have permission to risk a small moment of softness: acknowledge just one longing—no matter how tiny or private. Noticing is a radical act of self-care, and it’s how real change begins. Remember, you’re not alone; so many women are learning to let their strength and their need share space.Take Your Next Step:True connection was never about weakness; it’s what sustains and energizes you for the long haul. If you’re ready to practice new ways of being held and truly seen, coaching provides a confidential, non-judgmental space where your strength and vulnerability both get to breathe. You belong to a growing sisterhood of women redefining what real strength looks like. Book your confidential consult now, before another season passes you by. Your story matters; it’s safe—and smart—to take this step.
• 4.
  Emotional Shutdown

  You may relate strongly to more than one survival habit. Many strong women carry several of these patterns—your experience is valid and worth honoring.Empathetic Reflection & Vulnerability:You move through your days on autopilot, surviving by shutting down instead of breaking down—the cost: numb joy, distant relationships, and a body that only feels safe when quiet.How It Shows Up:Conversations skim the surface, hard topics are deferred, and even solitude feels shallow, not restful.A Compassionate Pause:Shutting down was your body’s way of coping when life felt too much—it’s more common than you think among busy, high-achieving women. Research shows that simply paying gentle attention to a physical sensation—warmth, tension, a flutter—without trying to fix it, can start to change how overwhelmed you feel. If you’re curious, pause for one minute, notice a single sensation, and hold it with curiosity. You’re not alone; thousands of women are learning how to reconnect with themselves, one small moment at a time.Take Your Next Step:Real courage starts with the tiniest steps. Permission to feel is something you’re allowed to claim, and coaching is here to help you succeed—safely, gently, and at your pace. Join a caring community, where your experience is honored and your journey valued.Book your discovery consult now. This is your time to begin thawing—because aliveness is for you, too, not just everyone else. You belong here, alongside countless other women reclaiming their own story.
• 5.
  Overperformer

  You may relate strongly to more than one survival habit. Many strong women carry several of these patterns—your experience is valid and worth honoring.Empathetic Reflection & Vulnerability:Achievement is your identity. The world cheers your productivity, but beneath every gold star is the fear that if you slow down, you disappear. Busyness numbs, but it doesn’t soothe; even after you finish everything, the voice inside asks, "What now? What am I without the doing?"How It Shows Up:You neglect rest, chase being “enough,” and dread stillness—not because you’re lazy, but because just being is unfamiliar territory.A Compassionate Pause:Busyness became your safe place—a way to prove your worth and avoid what felt too vulnerable to face. For many high-performing women, staying in motion helped soothe anxiety and win praise, especially in demanding or unpredictable environments. Studies confirm that action and productivity provide a sense of control and short-term relief from distress. Stillness may feel strange or even uncomfortable at first. Today, see if you can notice a single quiet moment—pausing between tasks, sitting with a cup of tea, or taking a slow breath. Let it feel awkward if it does; research shows that with gentle, repeated practice, moments of rest become safer and more restorative. Sometimes, it’s in the stillness that you hear what you really need.Take Your Next Step:You owe it to yourself not to let another day slip by on autopilot. You deserve real relief and the kind of calm that can start right now—not someday in the future. Your mind and body are asking for change, and you have every right to answer that need today. Book your discovery consult now, because your peace and clarity are too important to postpone.You’re not alone in this—research shows that thousands of high-achieving women face these same struggles every day, seeking exactly the growth and support you are. This is a safe space and a powerful community; you truly belong here. Let’s take this next step together.
• 6.
  Avoider

  You may relate strongly to more than one survival habit. Many strong women carry several of these patterns—your experience is valid and worth honoring.Empathetic Reflection & Vulnerability:You sidestep pain, skirt big emotions, and keep life predictable to avoid disappointment or chaos. But avoidance is exhausting too; it keeps you small and connection out of reach. You wonder why every solution is temporary, why calm always needs protecting.How It Shows Up:You say “it’s fine,” procrastinate on decisions, or disconnect before the discomfort arrives.A Compassionate Pause:Avoidance promised you peace. In the moment, turning away from hard tasks or feelings helped you catch your breath and avoid overwhelm—especially when life demanded too much at once. You’re not alone: research shows most people use avoidance as a short-term way to control anxiety or stress. But over time, what’s left unaddressed tends to quietly grow, and the things we avoid can start shaping our choices, relationships, and even the stories we tell ourselves. If you’re ready, try naming just one thing you’ve been avoiding—no need to fix it yet, just write it down privately. Studies suggest that putting your worries or emotions into words, even briefly, can bring down their intensity and help you feel just a touch more grounded. Notice what shifts for you, even if it’s small.Solution & Nurturing CTA:Freedom—the kind you can truly feel—lives on the other side of avoidance. Join thousands of other high-achieving women who are choosing support and gentle momentum over stuckness. You belong here.Book your discovery consult today, and start the journey toward living with more choice, less fear, and real, grounded peace. You don’t have to face discomfort alone. This is the moment you get to reclaim your story.
• 7.
  Self-Sacrificer - Therapy
• 8.
  Approval Seeker - Therapy
• 9.
  Hyper-Interdependent - Therapy
• 10.
  Emotional Shutdown - Therapy
• 11.
  Overperformer - Therapy
• 12.
  Avoider - Therapy