The People-Pleasing Prison: Are You Trapped?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When someone asks you for a favour you don't have time for, you typically: 

  • A.
    Say yes immediately, then stress about how to fit it in
  • B.
    Hesitate and feel guilty, but eventually say no with lots of explanation
  • C.
    Politely decline without over-explaining
• 2.
  At a restaurant, your order comes out wrong. You:

  • A.
    Eat it anyway - you don't want to cause trouble
  • B.
    Mention it quietly but say "it's fine, really" when they offer to fix it
  • C.
    Politely ask for what you ordered
• 3.
  When someone criticizes you (even constructively), you: 

  • A.
    Feel devastated and replay it for days
  • B.
    Get defensive initially, then obsess over whether they're right
  • C.
    Consider the feedback objectively without spiraling
• 4.
  How often do you say "I'm sorry" on a typical day? 

  • A.
    Constantly - even when nothing is my fault
  • B.
    More than I should, especially to keep the peace
  • C.
    Only when I've actually done something wrong
• 5.
  When you have a different opinion than someone else, you: 

  • A.
    Stay quiet or agree with them to avoid conflict
  • B.
    Share your view but backtrack if they seem upset
  • C.
    Express your perspective calmly and stand by it
• 6.
  Someone vents to you for the 5th time about the same problem. You: 

  • A.
    Listen again and give them your full emotional energy
  • B.
    Listen but feel drained and resentful afterward
  • C.
    Set a boundary: "I care about you, but we keep covering the same ground"
• 7.
  When making plans with friends, you: 

  • A.
    Always defer to what everyone else wants to do
  • B.
    Suggest something but quickly change if there's any pushback
  • C.
    Share your preference and negotiate from there
• 8.
  You're exhausted but someone needs your help. You: 

  • A.
    Push through exhaustion - their needs come first
  • B.
    Help but feel resentful that no one considers your needs
  • C.
    Say "I'd love to help, but I need to rest right now"
• 9.
  How do you feel when someone is upset with you? 

  • A.
    Panic - I'll do anything to fix it immediately
  • B.
    Extremely uncomfortable and anxious until it's resolved
  • C.
    I can tolerate their disappointment without falling apart
• 10.
  When you think about setting boundaries, you feel: 

  • A.
    Terrified - people will think I'm selfish or mean
  • B.
    Guilty and worried about hurting people's feelings
  • C.
    Confident that healthy boundaries improve relationships

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Boundary Builder

  "You're a Boundary Builder - And You're Ready to Level Up"
• 2.
  The Recovering People Pleaser

  "You're a Recovering People Pleaser - You See It, But You're Still Stuck"
• 3.
  "The Chameleon" 

  "You're a Chameleon - And It's Costing You Everything"