What's blocking your self-connection?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you're stressed out, what's your default reaction?

  • A.
    I overanalyze everything and spiral in my head.
  • B.
    I try to stay calm so no one else gets upset.
  • C.
    I focus on helping others instead of dealing with my own feelings.
  • D.
    I shut down, withdraw, or distract myself.
  • E.
    I keep it to myself and handle everything alone.
• 2.
  In relationships, what's the pattern you struggle with most?

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  • A.
    I second-guess myself and worry about saying/doing the wrong thing.
  • B.
    I avoid tension and end up keeping quiet to keep the peace. 
  • C.
     I give more than I receive and get drained easily. 
  • D.
    I detach or create distance when things feel overwhelming.
  • E.
    I feel safer relying only on myself, even when I want connection.
• 3.
  What's hardest for you when it comes to expressing your needs?

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  • A.
    I’m afraid my needs are too much or not valid. 
  • B.
    I don’t want to upset anyone or cause conflict.
  • C.
    I’m used to putting myself last and don’t even know what I need. 
  • D.
    I’d rather avoid the conversation entirely. 
  • E.
    I’m not comfortable depending on anyone.
• 4.
  How do you tend to handle conflict or tension?

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  • A.
    I replay everything in my head and overthink what to say.
  • B.
    I quickly smooth things over, even if it means abandoning myself.
  • C.
    I take responsibility for fixing it, even when it’s not mine.
  • D.
    I distance myself, shut down, or go quiet. 
  • E.
    I handle it alone rather than asking for support.
• 5.
  What's your biggest source of internal pressure right now?

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  • A.
    Feeling stuck in constant mental noise or indecision. 
  • B.
    Feeling like I disappear to keep harmony with others. 
  • C.
    Feeling drained from giving so much of myself.
  • D.
    Feeling numb, disconnected, or wanting to escape. 
  • E.
    Feeling isolated or like I have to do everything alone. 
• 6.
  When someone needs something from you, how do you typically respond?

  • A.
    I overthink how to respond or worry I’ll disappoint them. 
  • B.
    I immediately accommodate their needs to avoid conflict.
  • C.
    I drop everything and take care of it, no matter how I feel. 
  • D.
    I feel overwhelmed and tend to shut down or avoid.
  • E.
    I keep emotional distance and handle things on my own.
• 7.
  What fear shows up the strongest in your relationships or connections?

  • A.
    The fear of making a mistake or not being good enough. 
  • B.
    The fear of disappointing someone or causing tension. 
  • C.
    The fear of not being needed or valued if I don’t give.
  • D.
    The fear of being overwhelmed or losing control. 
  • E.
    The fear of depending on someone and being let down.
• 8.
  What do you most wish you could change about how you show up emotionally?

  • A.
    Quieting my mind so I can feel clearly. 
  • B.
    Speaking my truth without feeling guilty. 
  • C.
     Setting boundaries and honoring my energy. 
  • D.
    Staying present with my feelings instead of avoiding them.
  • E.
    Opening up and letting people in. 
• 9.
  What does "self-connection" feel like you're missing?

  • A.
    Clarity and calm instead of mental chaos. 
  • B.
    Feeling free to be myself without worrying about others
  • C.
    The ability to rest and not overextend. 
  • D.
    Feeling my emotions instead of numbing them.
  • E.
    Real support and emotional closeness. 
• 10.
  When you need support, how likely are you to reach out?

  • A.
    I think about it a lot but worry about being a burden. 
  • B.
    I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable with my needs. 
  • C.
    I usually end up helping others instead of asking. 
  • D.
    I avoid reaching out and isolate. 
  • E.
    I never ask — I handle everything myself. 

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Overthinker

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  You disconnect from yourself by staying in your head instead of your body.Why this happens:Your mind tries to protect you by analyzing, preparing, predicting, and staying “one step ahead.”But all that mental activity makes it harder to feel your emotions and hear your intuition.Signs this is you:• You replay conversations• You obsess over choices• You feel pressure to make the “right” decision• You get stuck in loops and can’t drop into your bodyWhat you actually need:• Grounding• Body awareness• Nervous system co-regulation• Emotional processing instead of mental processingHow to begin reconnecting:• Try slow breathwork (like Returning to Love)• Put a hand on your chest + belly and breathe into sensation• Practice saying “I don’t have to figure this out right now”Your next step:Invite your body back into the conversation...it already knows the truth.Want support for this pattern? Get my free breathwork practices here:
• 2.
  The Peacemaker

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  You disconnect from yourself by keeping the peace instead of keeping your boundaries.Why this happens:You learned that approval, harmony, and being “easy” were safer than expressing your true needs.Signs this is you:• You avoid conflict• You struggle to say no• You make yourself smaller to keep others comfortable• You override your own discomfortWhat you actually need:• Boundary support• Inner child reassurance• Nervous system safety around speaking your truth• Permission to take up spaceHow to begin reconnecting:• Try breathwork that helps release fear (like Calling Back Your Power)• Practice stating small preferences daily• Remind yourself: “My needs matter too”Your next step:Learn how to stay connected to yourself even when others might feel disappointed.Want support for this pattern? Get my free breathwork practices here.
• 3.
  The Avoider

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  You disconnect from yourself by numbing, distracting, or checking out.Why this happens:Your system learned to shut down or escape because feeling became overwhelming or unsupported.Signs this is you:• You disconnect when things get emotionally heavy• You scroll / eat / drink / work to avoid feeling• You fear being “too much” or “not enough”• You walk away when things get realWhat you actually need:• A safe way to feel emotions in small doses• Gentle, grounding breathwork that calms rather than activates• Structure that helps you return to your body when you start to check out• Support to slowly build tolerance for uncomfortable emotions• Spaces where you can exist without needing to perform or explainHow to begin reconnecting:• Try gentle breathwork (like The Feeling Room session)• Create 5-minute windows where you feel one emotion at a time• Say: “I can be with myself for just a moment”Your next step:You don’t need to feel everything all at once, just enough to return home to yourself.Want support for this pattern? Get my free breathwork practices here.
• 4.
  The Overgiver

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  You disconnect from yourself by giving more than you receive.Why this happens:You learned love through caretaking, performing, or earning your worth by showing up for others.Signs this is you:• You give until you’re depleted• You forget your own needs• You feel guilty resting• You feel responsible for everyone’s emotional worldWhat you actually need:• Inner reparenting• Nervous system rest• Allowing support• Receiving without provingHow to begin reconnecting:• Practice slowing your breathing when you notice yourself over-extending• Ask: “What do I need right now?”• Try a breathwork session that builds internal safety (like Returning to Love)Your next step:You deserve the same care you pour into everyone else.Want support for this pattern? Get my free breathwork practices here.
• 5.
  The Lone Wolf

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  You disconnect by becoming hyper-independent, emotionally guarded, or self-sufficient to a fault.Why this happens:Somewhere along the way, you learned that relying on others led to disappointment, inconsistency, or feeling like a burden.So your system adapted by saying: “I’ll just handle everything myself.”Signs this is you:• You struggle to ask for help (even when overwhelmed)• You rarely show emotions or only show them after you’ve processed alone• You feel safer giving than receiving• Deep down, you crave closeness, but it also scares youWhat you actually need:• Safe, steady connection that doesn’t overwhelm you• Support that invites instead of pushes• Emotional tools that help you trust your own inner world• Spaces where you don’t need to be put-together• Gentle vulnerability — in tiny, digestible steps• Receiving as a practice, not a riskHow to begin reconnecting:• Share a 2-sentence truth with someone you trust• Practice receiving one small thing a day (a compliment, a hand offered, a check-in)• Try breathwork that focuses on softening the chest and upper back• Let yourself be witnessed in just one honest momentYour next step:You don’t have to collapse your walls, just open a window. Relief comes through connection, not isolation.Want support for this pattern? Get my free breathwork practices here.