Discover Why You Struggle to Ask - Or Get “No”

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  CLARITY — I know what I want

  • A.
    I have a loose idea of what I want (like “more balance,” “less stress,” or “to be more recognized”), but I don’t know exactly what that looks like.
  • B.
    When I try to explain what I want, it still feels fuzzy in my own head.
  • C.
    I know something is wrong and can articulate what’s not working, but I’m not sure what would make it better or needs to change.
• 2.
  CONVICTION — Others understand me and how it benefits them

  • A.
    I know what I want, but I don’t know how to say it in a way that feels clear, concise, and convincing.
  • B.
    I forget to include context or benefits when I make a request.
  • C.
    I worry my ask won’t make sense or won’t land the way I intend.
• 3.
  CONFIDENCE — I can ask without fear or guilt

  • A.
    I second-guess whether my ask is reasonable or deserved.
  • B.
    I hesitate to ask because I don’t want to seem difficult, needy, or selfish.
  • C.
    Even when I plan to ask, I end up waiting for a “better time.”
• 4.
  FINESSE — My asks land well

  • A.
    When I ask, I ramble, fill silence, or keep talking.
  • B.
    I walk away wondering if I undermined myself without realizing it.
  • C.
    My tone or body language doesn’t always match what I’m trying to say.
• 5.
  How do you usually prepare for important conversations?

  • A.
    I practice my delivery to ensure it’s smooth and effective.
  • B.
    I try to boost my confidence and remind myself of my worth.
  • C.
    I make sure I know exactly what I want to say and how to say it.
  • D.
    I focus on understanding my feelings and what I truly want.
• 6.
  What’s your biggest challenge when asking for what you want?

  • A.
    I worry about how my message is received.
  • B.
    I’m not always sure what I truly want.
  • C.
    I feel nervous or guilty about asking.
  • D.
    I struggle to express my needs clearly and persuasively.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  CLARITY is where your asks breakdown

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  The Breakdown:You’re trying to ask before you’ve fully named what you want.Impact:When you’re not clear on what you want (beyond “something needs to change”) before the conversation, your asks come out vague or convoluted. This explains why nothing changes, or why you end up close to what you want, but not exactly what you want.The fix to improve your clarity:Creating space to tap into your intuition, and get clear on what you really want (not what’s expected of you, not what seems reasonable, and not what others want for you) before the moment to ask arrives.Exercise to improve your clarity:Bring a situation to mind where you haven’t asked for what you want, or received “no”. What do you want for the situation - not what you don’t want, or a loose idea like “more support”, but something specific. Allow yourself to be honest with yourself.The ReframeNo matter your result, the issue isn’t effort or worth! Even the most ambitious, capable, and senior professionals were taught to be accommodating, grateful, and responsible, instead of being taught to:get clear on what they wantorganize their thoughts to be clear, concise, and convincingfeel and speak with authentic confidenceand deliver their message with finesseThis isn’t a flaw.  It’s conditioning.And these are skills, not traits.Skills that are built in the right environment, with the right frameworks, and turned into habits through practice and support.Your Invitation If you want to strengthen these skills in real-life conversations, this is exactly the work we do inside Women Who Ask Club.Clarity is the hardest step for most women. 85% of the women I’ve coached struggle here first! Not because they don’t know themselves, but because no one taught them how to get clear quickly.Inside the Club, we use simple, repeatable questions to help you name what you actually want before the conversation - so your ask isn’t vague, softened, or misdirected.Asking and clarity are skills - and skills need practice.
• 2.
  CONVICTION is where your asks breakdown

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  The Breakdown: You know what you want, but you don’t yet have the words to be clear, concise, and convincing.Impact:Your ask gets softened, diluted, or over-explained. You walk away wondering if you were understood, or why you got something other than what you actually wanted.What will improve your conviction:Using a framework and process to organize your thoughts into clear, compelling language - without writing and rewriting what you want to say in your head.Exercise to improve your conviction:Ask yourself, what information does the other person need to understand what you want and why, that’ll help you be more convincing?The ReframeNo matter your result, the issue isn’t effort or worth! Even the most ambitious, capable, and senior women were taught to be accommodating, grateful, and responsible, instead of being taught to:get clear on what they wantorganize their thoughts to be clear, concise, and convincinfeel and speak with authentic confidenceand deliver their message with finesseThis isn’t a flaw.  It’s conditioning.And these are skills, not traits.Skills that are built in the right environment, with the right frameworks, and turned into habits through practice and support.Your Invitation If you want to strengthen these skills in real-life conversations, this is exactly the work we do inside Women Who Ask Club.Conviction is where many women get stuck - not because they don’t know what they want, but because they don’t yet have a clear structure to organize their thoughts into language that lands.Inside the Club, we practice using a simple, repeatable framework to turn what’s in your head into clear, concise, and convincing asks - without over-explaining or rewriting the conversation a dozen times.Asking and building conviction are skills — and skills need practice.
• 3.
  CONFIDENCE is where your asks breakdown

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  The Breakdown:You might know what you want and have the words, but fear, guilt, people-pleasing, or imposter syndrome hijacks the moment.Impact:You hesitate, second-guess yourself, or talk yourself out of asking altogether.What will improve your confidence:Understanding the beliefs and patterns that cause hesitation, and then rewiring them so you feel grounded and empowered when it’s time to speak. Many people call this deconditioning, and it’s a powerful way to develop authentic, grounded empowerment and fulfillment.Exercise to improve your confidence:Ask yourself, “what I believe about my situation and why I can’t ask, shouldn’t ask, or won’t get what i want is _____.” This is the first insight to shifting your beliefs towards confidence, worth and possibility.The ReframeNo matter your result, the issue isn’t effort or worth! Even the most ambitious, capable, and senior women were taught to be accommodating, grateful, and responsible, instead of being taught to:get clear on what they wantorganize their thoughts to be clear, concise, and convincinfeel and speak with authentic confidenceand deliver their message with finesseThis isn’t a flaw.  It’s conditioning.And these are skills, not traits.Skills that are built in the right environment, with the right frameworks, and turned into habits through practice and support.Your Invitation If you want to strengthen these skills in real-life conversations, this is exactly the work we do inside Women Who Ask Club.Confidence is where many women get stuck - not because they lack courage or capability, but because old beliefs and patterns get activated in the moment and hijack what they already know and want to say.Inside the Club, we work with those beliefs directly, so you can prepare for conversations feeling confident, less stressed, and steady, before you speak, instead of second-guessing yourself in the moment.Asking and managing beliefs are skills — and skills need practice.
• 4.
  FINESSE is where your asks breakdown

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  The Breakdown and impact:You ask, but how you ask works against you because the tone, body language, timing, or over-talking weaken the impact. Some people call this executive presence. I see it as the icing on the cake because you can be clear, have the words, and trust yourself, but it can absolutely make or break an ask.What will improve your finesse:Identifying one delivery habit that’s diluting your message (tone, timing, over-talking, etc.), and practicing a different way of showing up.Exercise to improve your finesse: What is one habit you have when you speak that might convey uncertainty or aggressiveness to others - and what can you do differently?The ReframeNo matter your result, the issue isn’t effort or worth! Even the most ambitious, capable, and senior women were taught to be accommodating, grateful, and responsible, instead of being taught to:get clear on what they wantorganize their thoughts to be clear, concise, and convincinfeel and speak with authentic confidenceand deliver their message with finesseThis isn’t a flaw.  It’s conditioning.And these are skills, not traits.Skills that are built in the right environment, with the right frameworks, and turned into habits through practice and support.Your Invitation If you want to strengthen these skills in real-life conversations, this is exactly the work we do inside Women Who Ask Club.Finesse is where many women get stuck - not because they lack clarity or confidence, but because how they deliver the ask changes under pressure. Some people call this executive presence - I see it as refinement.Inside the Club, we work with real conversations to identify one delivery habit that’s diluting your message - and practice a different way of showing up until your words land clearly and feel right.Asking and finesse are skills - and skills need practice.