Over-Responsibility Check

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Quiz Questions

1.
I feel uneasy when someone I love is struggling, even if it’s not my problem to solve.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
2.
I step in quickly because it feels uncomfortable to watch others figure things out on their own
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
3.
I worry that if I don’t help, something bad might happen.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
4.
I feel responsible for other people’s emotions, reactions, or outcomes.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
5.
I offer help before I’m asked, then feel frustrated when it’s expected.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
6.
Rest feels earned only after everyone else is okay.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
7.
I replay conversations in my head, wondering if I should have done more.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
8.
I feel guilty when I say no, even when I have a good reason.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
9.
I stay involved in situations longer than I want to because “it’s just easier if I handle it.”
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
10.
I struggle to describe who I am outside of what I do for others.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
11.
When I don’t step in, I feel anxious or unsettled.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always
12.
I’ve been told I “do too much,” but I don’t know how to stop.
- A.
  Rarely
- B.
  Sometimes
- C.
  Often
- D.
  Almost always

Quiz Outcomes

1.
The Helper
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First, take a breath. Landing here means you care deeply—and you still have a sense of where you end and others begin.You’re the one people turn to because you’re thoughtful, capable, and steady. You offer help because it feels natural, not because you’re trying to control anything.And yet… something has started to feel heavy.You may notice that you jump in quickly, even when no one asked. Not because you have to—but because it feels uncomfortable not to. When you don’t help, a quiet guilt creeps in.Here’s the truth: Your desire to support others is not the problem. The problem begins when helping becomes automatic instead of intentional.Love doesn’t require you to anticipate every need. Wisdom often starts with a pause.A gentle reflection: What would it look like to wait one beat before stepping in?Permission you’re allowed to take: You are allowed to help without carrying.Prayer: “God, help me offer support without taking responsibility for outcomes that aren’t mine.”If you’d like, I recorded a short reflectionfor women who landed here. It’s just a quiet place to breathe and begin letting go
2.
The Fixer
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If this result fits, I want you to hear this clearly: You didn’t become this way by accident.Somewhere along the line, you learned that problems don’t resolve themselves unless you do something. So you step in. You troubleshoot. You anticipate. You fix.It’s not control—it’s protection.But what once kept things stable is now costing you peace.You feel restless when others struggle. You replay scenarios. You offer solutions because watching discomfort feels unbearable.Here’s the truth: Not every problem is a signal for you to act. Some struggles are teachers—and you’re not meant to interrupt every lesson.Fixing can feel like love. But love also knows when to step back.A gentle reflection: What if you trusted that God is working even when you’re not intervening?Permission you’re allowed to take: You are allowed to stop managing what isn’t yours.Prayer: “Lord, help me trust You more than my instinct to fix.”If you’d like, I recorded a short reflection for women who landed here. It’s just a quiet place to breathe and begin letting go
3.
The Carrier
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If you landed here, you are likely very tired—and very strong.You don’t just help. You hold.You carry emotional weight, responsibility, and concern that never fully belonged to you. Being needed once felt safe. Now it feels heavy.You’ve confused love with responsibility for so long that setting things down feels like abandonment—even when you’re exhausted.Here’s the truth: Over-responsibility is not faithfulness. God never asked you to carry what He designed others to hold.When you carry too much, resentment quietly grows. Rest feels undeserved. Guilt feels constant.But love does not require self-erasure.A gentle reflection: What are you holding right now that God never handed to you?Permission you’re allowed to take: You are allowed to release without explaining.Prayer: “God, show me what is mine to carry—and give me courage to set the rest down.”If you’d like, I recorded a short reflection for women who landed here. It’s just a quiet place to breathe and begin letting go
4.
The Exhausted Anchor
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If this result landed hard, let me say this with care:You have been the steady one for a very long time.Others lean on you. Depend on you. Expect you to hold things together. And you have—at the cost of yourself.Your identity has slowly narrowed to what you provide. Who you are outside of that feels unclear, maybe even scary.You’re not weak. You’re worn down.Here’s the truth: You were never meant to be the foundation for everyone else’s life.Even anchors need rest. Even strong women need support.God does not ask you to disappear so others can feel secure.A gentle reflection: Who would you be if you weren’t carrying everyone else?Permission you’re allowed to take: You are allowed to be held, too.Prayer: “Lord, help me step out of survival and into the life You still have for me.”If you’d like, I recorded a short reflection for women who landed here. It’s just a quiet place to breathe and begin letting go

Over-Responsibility Check

This short assessment is a gentle check-in for women who care deeply and may be carrying more than they were meant to. There are no right or wrong answers, just space to notice what feels true for you right now.

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes