Coach Satya

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When negotiating with your child, what is your core strength?  

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    I am stable, reliable and a natural listener. 
  • B.
    I pay close attention to details which help us find a solution.
  • C.
    I am driven by results therefore oriented to fix the situation. 
  • D.
    I am an optimistic and know we will find solutions together.  
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  When relating with your child what is your default tendency? 

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    I relate by thinking and understanding principals.  
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    I relate by dreaming with my child and following my intuition.
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    I relate with actions steps and finding solutions.  
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    I relate with feelings.
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  What do you feel is your default orientation? 

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    Action oriented
  • B.
    Thinking oriented
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    Intuition oriented
  • D.
    Relationship oriented
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  When you lose your cool with your child, how do you respond?

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    I personally attack with my words. 
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    I become autocratic and cease listening.  
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    I leave the situation.
  • D.
    I give-in to stop the fighting. 
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  What do you fear the most in your parenting?   

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    I fear losing control.  
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    I fear unexpected change.
  • C.
    I fear having to make quick decisions. 
  • D.
    I fear that I will lose the approval of my child.
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  If you had to select an area of growth for you as a parent, what would it be?

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    I feel I could be a better listener.
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    I feel I could plan ahead and follow through better.
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    I feel I could initiate more and not let life just happen. 
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    I feel I could be better at sharing from my heart with my child.  

Quiz Outcomes

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  Authoritarian Parent OutcomeAn Authoritarian Parent's tell-tale sign is "Let's get this done, and get it done my way."  Parents with this type are more oriented toward getting results rather than pleasing their children.  They initiate action, and their actions are definite.  An Authoritarian Parent tends to focus on the present and their responses to their children Authoritarian Parentpear swift, efficient and to the point.  They work most easily with children who can move quickly.  The Authoritarian Parent tends to be impatient and get things done in a hurry.  The Authoritarian Parent does not like being told what to do or what not to do.  When encountered with an obstacle, the Authoritarian Parent will often seek to control the situation.How does this translate to your parenting?If you are primarily an Authoritarian Parent you are seen as action-oriented, in a hurry, bossy, commanding, efficient, disciplined, independent, quick, decisive and when you engage in conversation, you tend to quickly see the point or draw a conclusion.  At times, your fast-paced, logical Authoritarian Parent approach to problem solving is exactly what your child needs.  Most oftentimes, your child would rather have you listen.  Your stretch assignment is to deeply listen to your child without trying to draw a conclusion or provide a solution.  This will be uncomfortable for you and maybe even painful at times. For example, during the first few seconds your child is sharing with you, respond with an encouraging nod, eye contact and body posturing that is open and supportive.  This shows your child that you are interested in what they are saying.  Then use verbal phrases like “share more”, “that’s interesting” and/or “I understand”.  Let your child work out their own conclusion to their problem.  A heads up...your child will NOT be used to you letting go and listening in this manner.  Sit with them.  Be quiet.  Give it time.  You are changing a pattern.  They may still stay silent and dumbfounded as to what to do or say next as they are used to you being in charge.  Allow them the space for this new a-ha.  When you reach your maximum stress point your tendency is to control them. The label of the Authoritarian Parent is not negative.  This is a way of being in the world. Versatility can always be in the space, and the Authoritarian Parent can grow and evolve.Download your results here.
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  Go-Along ParentA Go-Along Parent’s tell-tale sign is "Whatever you need.  I give-in.  Our relationship means more to me than imposing a firm boundary."  The Go-Along Parent places a HIGH priority on the relationship with their child.  They achieve objectives with understanding and mutual respect vs force and authority.  They accept authority from another person (i.e., your child) and power-over is not an objective for them.  The Go-Along Parent moves slowly and are undisciplined with their time because they wish to take time to share feelings with their child.  This can be difficult for the Go-Along Parent to get back to the tasks or work at hand.  The Go-Along Parent likes to stay comfortable with the known and avoid activities that involve risk, especially risk with an interpersonal relationship. (i.e., your child!)How does this translate to your parenting? If you are primarily a Go Along Parent you are seen as supportive, friendly, helpful, kind, team-oriented, soft-hearted, easy going and willing to join-in when asked to complete a task at hand.  The Go-Along Parent will want to take their time and be sure everyone is satisfied.  If you find yourself “giving-in” to your child too much, it’s time to hold a boundary, lovingly yet firmly.  This will be uncomfortable for you at first yet in the long run very satisfying.  For example, when it’s time to brush teeth or get off the screens, you communicate the boundary with economy and clarity and hold firm to your decision.  You are making this decision for a reason.  Don’t doubt yourself.  Be directive.  If you are not directive, it’s likely that your child will not take you seriously and will take advantage of you.  A heads up...your child will NOT be used to you being directive and following through.  They will push back; it’s inevitable.  Know this.  You are changing a pattern.  Give it time. Breathe.  They may lash out at you.  They may ignore you.  Lovingly keep at them.  Along with verbal clarification, leave them a note of your request.  You are creating mutual respect in the space that will serve them for a lifetime. The label of the Go-Along Parent is not negative.  This is a method of being in the world. Versatility can always be in the space, and the Go-Along Parent can grow and evolve. Download your results here.
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  Passionate Parent OutcomeA Passionate Parent’s tell-tale sign is "Let's go, come on! Move, move, move! We gotta get there. We don't want to miss out!" A Passionate Parent focuses on the future, is competitive, has little concern for practical details in the present, acts quickly and is undisciplined with their use of time.  The Passionate Parent can easily change their course of action and move rapidly from subject to subject.  The Passionate Parent can make decisions based on personal opinion, their intuition or others who seems more prominent or successful vs facts & data.  How does this translate to your parenting? If you are primarily a Passionate Parent you are seen as outgoing, enthusiastic, warm, opinionated, talkative, emotional and can be seen as the "life of the party!"  At the same time, you may monopolize social gatherings.  Or if you are feeling irritable, you make your feelings obvious.  If you find yourself "talking-over" for your child or answering for them, it's time to check that pattern and put some holds on your emotional words and actions.  Let your child speak, listen to them and make comments that support their conversation. For example, mirror their words back to them so that they know they are heard.  Ask them to "share more" after you have mirrored them or ask them "how they feel" after they have shared with you.  Restrain your impulsive nature to quickly answer for your child. A heads up...they are NOT used to talking for themselves.  So, at first, they may not want to share.  You are changing a pattern.  Give it time.  Breathe.  Slow down.  Give your child the space to share.  It will happen slowly over time.  They have something to say and giving them that space will create deep connection.  They will know that you care about what they think and that you want to hear from them, priceless.  The seed of trust is now planted. When you reach your maximum stress point your tendency is to personally attack with your words, yell at your child. The label of the Passionate Parent is not negative.  This is a method of being in the world. Versatility can always be in the space, and the Passionate Parent can grow and evolve. Download your results here.
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  Detailed Parent A Detailed Parent’s tell-tale sign is "I'm overwhelmed and I'm outta here. This does not add up.  This does not make sense to me." The Detailed Parent lives life according to facts, principles, logic and consistency.  The Detailed Parent may seem cold and detached.  Yet as they seem cold and independent, they appear cooperative in their actions, as long as they can have some freedom to organize their own efforts and THOUGHTS.  They tend to have a "show me" perspective which leads to suspicion until they can see a predictable pattern that is evidence based.  The Detailed Parent moves slowly yet uses time in a deliberate, disciplined manner.  They want to consider information in a calm, common sense way and avoid flashiness.  They focus on the past to give them direction for the future.  Evidence needs to be solid, tangible, practical and realistic, not someone's personal opinion.  The Detailed Parent has a strong desire to be right.  How does this translate to your parenting? If you are primarily the Detailed Parent you are seen as thoughtful, wanting more facts, quiet, critical, logical, cool towards others, thorough, distant and may have several firm convictions but may hesitate to announce them to others, especially in an emotional way. You may feel very strongly about a rule you hold and may explain things to your child in a factual, logical, methodical way void of feelings.  You state all the reasons they need to follow this value, and your way tends to be the right way.  When sharing with your child, your stretch assignment will be to integrate feelings into your reasoning.  For example, could you please quiet down inside the home, I feel overwhelmed and confused when there is too much noise and I then tend to get angry.  I don’t want my anger to spill out on you.  Or, when you don’t listen to me, I feel disrespected and it brings me back to my childhood when I felt no one listened to me.  For the Detailed Parent, this is a huge game changer.  You are admitting that you are human.  You are bringing feelings into the space with your child. They can connect with you on a deeper level.  This is a VERY important action step to take as a Detailed Parent.  Please understand the gravity of how sharing emotionally can truly change your home life. A heads up...your child will NOT be used to you sharing from your heart.  They won’t know exactly what to say at first.  You have cultivated the courage to share, and you are modeling emotional intelligence to them. This is a gift! When you reach your maximum stress point your tendency is to avoid them.  Know that this will happen and don’t beat yourself up for it.  This is your default. The label of the Detailed Parent is not negative.  This is a method of being in the world. Versatility can always be in the space, and the Detailed Parent can grow and evolve. Download your results here.