What's Actually Draining Your Energy?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When things feel chaotic or unclear at work or ministry, what do you usually do first?

  • A.
    I step in and take responsibility so things don’t fall apart
  • B.
    I focus on smoothing tension and making sure everyone is okay
  • C.
     I take over or redo things to make sure they’re done right
  • D.
    I push myself harder and tell myself this is just part of being faithful
• 2.
  When someone is unhappy or disappointed with you, what affects you most?

  • A.
     I feel it in my body and want to restore harmony quickly.
  • B.
    I feel personally responsible and try to fix it.
  • C.
     I tell myself this is the cost of leadership and service
  • D.
    I replay what I should have done differently.
• 3.
  When you’re exhausted but still have more to do, what thought keeps you going?

  • A.
     It needs to be done well, not halfway.
  • B.
     If I don’t handle this, it won’t get done.
  • C.
    If I stop, I’ll let people down.
  • D.
    This is what faithfulness looks like.
• 4.
  Which situation drains you the most right now?

  • A.
    Carrying decisions and outcomes that should be shared.
  • B.
    Constantly correcting, checking, or stepping in.
  • C.
    Managing others’ emotions or reactions.
  • D.
    Feeling like rest would be selfish or unfaithful
• 5.
  When you imagine setting a clear boundary, what feels hardest?

  • A.
    Things might fall apart without me.
  • B.
    Someone might be hurt or upset.
  • C.
     It might mean I’m not being faithful enough.
  • D.
    The quality or outcome might drop.
• 6.
  At the end of most days, what feels most depleted in you?

  • A.
    My mental bandwidth from carrying too much in my head.
  • B.
    My soul from pouring out in service to others
  • C.
    My emotional capacity from managing too many emotions.
  • D.
    My focus/energy from constant checking and fixing
• 7.
  Which statement feels most true lately?

  • A.
    Too much depends on me.
  • B.
     I absorb more emotional weight than anyone realizes.
  • C.
    I can’t seem to stop stepping in.
  • D.
    I’m tired of being strong and faithful all the time.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Responsibility Drain

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  You’re carrying more than your share.You are someone others trust. You see what needs to be done, anticipate problems before they escalate, and step in to ensure the mission keeps moving forward. You have strong ownership, follow-through, and a deep sense of responsibility—qualities that make you an effective and respected leader.Over time, those same strengths can quietly turn into overfunctioning. You may find yourself carrying decisions, outcomes, or emotional weight that were meant to be shared. Not because others are incapable—but because you’re capable and committed.This pattern is especially common among women who care deeply about people and purpose. When something matters, you don’t walk away—you step up. Eventually, leadership starts running on your energy instead of shared ownership.You’re not failing. You’re leading with capacity that’s being overextended.This result isn’t a call to care less—it’s an invitation to explore how responsibility can be distributed without guilt, so leadership doesn’t depend on you holding everything together.
• 2.
  The Peacekeeping Drain

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  You’re carrying the emotional load.You are highly attuned to people. You sense tension quickly, notice shifts in mood, and work hard to create harmony and safety. You bring empathy, relational wisdom, and emotional intelligence into your leadership—gifts that are essential in ministry and service-centered work.At the same time, these strengths can become an overcompensation. You may absorb discomfort, soften your voice, delay clarity, or manage others’ emotions so things don’t escalate. Over time, your nervous system carries what the room hasn’t learned to hold for itself.This is not weakness. It’s what happens when a leader values people and feels responsible for how everyone feels.Many women leaders were subtly trained to believe that harmony depends on them—and that conflict signals failure. The result is often exhaustion that comes not from doing too much, but from holding too much emotionally.You’re not too sensitive. You’re highly perceptive—and that perception needs support, not self-sacrifice.This pattern invites you to explore how leadership can remain relational without requiring you to carry the emotional weight alone.
• 3.
  The Control / Perfection Drain

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  You’re carrying the standard.You have a strong internal compass for excellence. You care about quality, clarity, and doing things well—not for ego, but because the work matters. You likely see gaps others miss and step in to protect outcomes, reputation, or impact.Over time, this strength can turn into overfunctioning through control. You may find it hard to tolerate imperfection, wait for others to learn, or fully release tasks—especially when the cost of mistakes feels high.This isn’t about being rigid or demanding. It’s about being a leader with high standards in systems that often rely on your competence to function.For many women leaders, excellence became a way to earn trust, credibility, or permission to lead. When that’s the case, letting go can feel risky—even when you’re exhausted.You’re not “too much.” You’re carrying more of the standard than one person was meant to hold.This result is an invitation to explore leadership that protects excellence without requiring constant vigilance, so your capacity can be used where it matters most.
• 4.
  The Sacrifice Drain

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  You’re carrying faithfulness as self-sacrifice.You are deeply committed to your calling. You value service, availability, and perseverance. You show up, push through, and often put the mission—and others—ahead of your own needs. Your faith and integrity shape how you lead.At some point, faithfulness may have quietly merged with self-sacrifice. Rest can feel indulgent. Boundaries can feel selfish. Slowing down can feel like letting God—or others—down.This is not a lack of trust or spiritual maturity. It’s a pattern many faithful women inherit in service-driven environments.When endurance is consistently praised and limits are rarely modeled, exhaustion can start to feel like a spiritual obligation rather than a warning sign.You’re not weak for feeling depleted. You’re strong—and you’ve been strong for a long time.This pattern gently invites a re-examination of what faithfulness looks like over the long haul—and how leadership rooted in calling can also be rooted in sustainability, joy, and shared load.