What Pattern shows up in Your Relationships?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you start to care about someone, your instinct is to:

  • A.
    A. Stay connected and keep the relationship feeling strong
  • B.
    B. Keep some emotional distance so you don’t get hurt
  • C.
    C. Think about every interaction afterward
  • D.
    D. Try to make things work or improve the connection
  • E.
    E. Feel things quickly and respond in the moment
• 2.
  If they take hours to respond to a message, you:

  • A.
    A. Send something else to keep the connection going
  • B.
    B. Assume they’re losing interest and start to pull back
  • C.
    C. Re-read the conversation to figure out what happened
  • D.
    D. Think about what you could do differently next time
  • E.
    E. Feel a surge of emotion and want to respond right away
• 3.
  In your relationships, your biggest focus is:

  • A.
    A. Making sure they feel good and the connection stays strong
  • B.
    B. Not getting too close too quickly
  • C.
    C. Making sure you don’t say or do the wrong thing
  • D.
    D. Keeping things moving in the right direction
  • E.
    E. Managing how intense things feel
• 4.
  If someone gives you feedback (like “I wish you communicated more”), you usually:

  • A.
    A. Worry about how it affects the relationship
  • B.
    B. Get defensive or withdraw
  • C.
    C. Replay the conversation in your head
  • D.
    D. Try to fix it immediately
  • E.
    E. Feel it strongly and carry it with you
• 5.
  When a relationship feels uncertain, you usually:

  • A.
    A. Try harder to keep it steady
  • B.
    B. Pull away before it gets messy
  • C.
    C. Analyze everything to figure it out
  • D.
    D. Start thinking about how to fix or clarify it
  • E.
    E. Feel overwhelmed and unsettled quickly
• 6.
  During conflict, your instinct is to:

  • A.
    A. Keep things calm and prevent escalation
  • B.
    B. Avoid the conversation
  • C.
    C. Explain your logic until it makes sense
  • D.
    D. Solve the problem immediately
  • E.
    E. React in the moment based on how you feel
• 7.
  If someone you care about becomes distant, your first thought is:

  • A.
    A. “What did I do wrong?”
  • B.
    B. “I knew this would happen.”
  • C.
    C. “I need to understand exactly what changed.”
  • D.
    D. “What can I do to fix this?”
  • E.
    E. “Something feels off and I need to respond now.”
• 8.
  What worries you most in relationships?

  • A.
    A. Being rejected or not enough
  • B.
    B. Becoming too dependent on someone
  • C.
    C. Making the wrong decision
  • D.
    D. Things falling apart because you didn’t handle them right
  • E.
    E. Losing control of your emotions
• 9.
  When things are going really well in a relationship, you:

  • A.
    A. Focus on keeping it that way
  • B.
    B. Stay slightly guarded
  • C.
    C. Think about what could change
  • D.
    D. Invest more and give more
  • E.
    E. Feel everything more intensely
• 10.
  When you need to express something important, you:

  • A.
    A. Soften it so it doesn’t cause tension
  • B.
    B. Hold back or keep it to yourself
  • C.
    C. Think through exactly how to say it
  • D.
    D. Try to say it clearly and fix the situation
  • E.
    E. Feel it building before you say anything

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Approval Chaser
• 2.
  Lone Wolf
• 3.
  Analyzer
• 4.
  Fixer
• 5.
  Emotional Reactor