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The Default Yes
Your yes isn’t a decision. It’s a reflex — and it’s running your calendar.You are responsive, reliable, and genuinely good at showing up for people. These are not small things. The problem is that your default answer to almost any request is yes — not because you’ve thought it through and decided yes is right, but because yes requires no justification, no awkward pause, no risk of disappointing someone in the moment. No, on the other hand, feels like something you need to earn. So you say yes, and you figure out the cost later.Some of your yeses are running a more sophisticated operation than you realize. If you say “let me get back to you,” you might forget — and then they’ll be annoyed. But if you say yes, they’ll remind you when the time comes. So yes is actually the responsible answer. This logic is completely internally consistent and also quietly building a business that runs on other people’s priorities instead of your own. Your day gets shaped by whoever reached out most recently, your commitments accumulate faster than your capacity, and resentment shows up right on schedule.Here’s the part that matters: this isn’t a boundaries problem in the way most coaches mean it. For an ADHD brain that struggles with decision-making, prioritization, and tolerating the discomfort of an open loop, yes isn’t weakness — it’s an elegant workaround for several hard things at once. The work isn’t learning to say no. It’s building a system that makes “let me think about it” feel safe enough to actually use.Your yes should be a decision. Right now it’s a default.YOUR NEXT STEPYour three-email series addresses The Default Yes at the level it actually operates — the decision-making avoidance, the discomfort tolerance, and the practical scripts that make protecting your time feel less like conflict and more like clarity. Plus the ADHD-ish ™ Podcast episodes on the people-pleasing and impulsivity intersection that will make you feel significantly less alone in this pattern.Go check your inbox — the details on what this means for your business are waiting for you.