The ENM Readiness Assessment: Where Are You Really?"

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Quiz Questions

1.
Which best describes your current relationship situation?
- A.
  I am in a monogamous relationship but curious about other structures
- B.
  I have been thinking about or researching ENM but have not acted on it yet
- C.
  I am currently practicing some form of ENM (open, poly, swinging, etc.)
- D.
  I have been practicing ENM for a while and feel solid in my approach
2.
When you think about having an honest conversation with a partner about what you really want in your relationship, what comes up?
- A.
  I am not even sure what I would say yet. I am still figuring out what I want
- B.
  I know what I want to say but I am afraid of how they will react
- C.
  We have had the conversation, but it did not go the way I hoped or keeps getting stuck
- D.
  We communicate openly about our relationship structure and it works well
3.
What feels like the hardest part of your relationship journey right now?
- A.
  I do not have enough information to know what path is right for me
- B.
  I know what I want but I do not know how to start or have the conversation
- C.
  I am dealing with jealousy, boundaries, or conflict that I cannot seem to resolve
- D.
  Honestly, things are going well. I just like learning and growing
4.
How do you typically handle jealousy or insecurity in relationships?
- A.
  I have not had to deal with it in an ENM context yet and I am nervous about it
- B.
  I think I could handle it but I do not have tools or strategies for it
- C.
  It comes up regularly and I struggle to work through it without conflict
- D.
  I have developed strategies that work for me and I can usually process it constructively
5.
If you could wave a magic wand and fix one thing about your relationship life right now, what would it be?
- A.
  I would have total clarity on whether ENM is actually right for me
- B.
  I would be able to talk to my partner openly without fear of judgment or rejection
- C.
  The jealousy, scheduling conflicts, or communication breakdowns would just stop
- D.
  I would have a bigger community of people who understand my relationship style
6.
How would you describe your experience with setting and maintaining relationship boundaries?
- A.
  I have not thought much about boundaries in a non-monogamy context yet
- B.
  I understand boundaries in theory but I have not practiced setting them with a partner around ENM
- C.
  I have set boundaries but they keep getting tested, crossed, or renegotiated in ways that feel stressful
- D.
  I have clear boundaries that my partner(s) and I respect and revisit as needed
7.
Who do you talk to about your relationship questions or challenges?
- A.
  No one really. I do not feel comfortable bringing this up with people in my life
- B.
  Maybe a close friend, but I do not think they fully understand or support what I am exploring
- C.
  I have some ENM-aware people in my life but I still feel like I am figuring it out alone
- D.
  I have a solid support network of people who get it and I can be fully honest with
8.
How much do your cultural background, family expectations, or community norms influence how you approach your relationship choices?
- A.
  A lot. I worry about judgment from my family or community if I explore anything outside of monogamy
- B.
  It weighs on me. I feel like I am navigating expectations that do not match what I actually want
- C.
  It has been a factor, and I have had to have some difficult conversations or make hard choices because of it
- D.
  I have worked through most of that. My relationship choices are mine regardless of outside expectations
9.
When you think about getting support for your relationship journey (books, coaching, a group program), how do you feel?
- A.
  I am not ready for that yet. I just want to learn more on my own first
- B.
  I would be open to it if I knew it would actually help me get unstuck
- C.
  I have been looking for the right program or coach. I need structured help
- D.
  I have invested in my growth before and I value it. I am always open to leveling up
10.
Which of these sounds most like what you need right now?
- A.
  A clear framework to help me understand my options before I make any decisions
- B.
  A safe space to learn how to have the conversations I have been avoiding
- C.
  A guided group with people who get it, where I can work through real challenges with expert help
- D.
  Resources and community to support the practice I already have

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Your Result: The Curious Explorer
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You are at the beginning of something important, and the fact that you are asking these questions already puts you ahead of most people.Right now, you are in information-gathering mode. You want to understand your options before making any moves, and that is smart. The worst thing you could do is rush into a relationship structure you do not fully understand.Here is what I want you to know: there is no timeline on this. Whether you ultimately choose monogamy, some form of ethical non-monogamy, or something you have not even considered yet, the goal is to make that choice from a place of knowledge, not confusion. Your Next Step:My book, An African-American Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy, was written specifically for people at your stage. It covers the foundational frameworks, communication tools, and cultural considerations that will help you figure out what is right for you, without pressure.Get Your Copy HereCheck your email. I am sending you a resource that will help you take the next step on your timeline, not anyone else's.Explore intimacy products for every relationship style at OrganicLoven.com
2.
Your Result: The Ready Communicator
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You know what you want. That is not your problem. Your problem is the conversation you have not had yet, or the one that went sideways when you tried.This is the most common place people get stuck in their ENM journey. They have the desire and the openness, but they are missing the communication tools to bridge the gap between what they want and how to actually build it with another person.Here is what I have learned coaching people through exactly this moment: you do not need more articles. You do not need more time to think about it. You need a framework, a script, and the support of people who have been where you are. Your Next Step:My ENM Group Coaching Cohort was built specifically for people at your stage. Over the course of the program, you will learn exactly how to have the conversations you have been avoiding, set boundaries that actually hold, and transition into the relationship structure you want, with support from me and a small group of people navigating the same thing.Next cohort starts May 2nd. 10 seats. Enrollment closes April 25th.Learn About the Group Coaching CohortNot ready to commit? No pressure. Book a free 15-minute call and let us figure out your next move together. Book Your Free Call Check your email. I am going to send you something over the next few days that will help you take the first step whether you join the cohort or not.
3.
Your Result: The Active Navigator
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You are in it. You are doing the work. And you already know that ENM is not just a decision you make once. It is a practice you have to maintain, and right now, something in that practice is not working the way you need it to.Maybe it is jealousy that keeps flaring up no matter how much you process it. Maybe it is a boundary that keeps getting tested. Maybe it is the exhaustion of managing multiple relationships without a system that actually works. Maybe a partner is struggling even though you are doing fine, and you do not know how to support them without abandoning your own needs.You do not need a beginner's guide. You need advanced tools and the kind of support that only comes from people who genuinely understand what you are navigating. Your Next Step:My ENM Group Coaching Cohort is designed for people at exactly your stage. You will get advanced communication and emotional management frameworks, boundary renegotiation strategies, and a small group of peers who are working through the same challenges in real time, with my guidance throughout.Next cohort starts May 2nd. 10 seats. Enrollment closes April 25th.Learn About the Group Coaching Cohort Want to talk first? I get it. Let us have a real conversation about what you are dealing with and whether this is the right fit. Book Your Free Call Check your email. I am going to share some resources over the next few days that will be useful regardless of whether you join the cohort.
4.
Your Result: The Grounded Practitioner
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You have put in the work and it shows. Your communication is strong, your boundaries are clear, and you have developed the emotional resilience that makes ENM sustainable. That does not happen by accident.You likely took this quiz out of curiosity or to check in with yourself, and honestly, that kind of intentional self-reflection is exactly why your practice is working. Here Is How You Can Stay Connected:Know someone who needs this quiz? Share it with a partner, friend, or someone you think would benefit. Sometimes the best gift is the right question at the right time. Share the Quiz Explore OrganicLoven.com: 1,500+ organic, body-safe intimacy products for the bodies you love to love. Use code QUIZTAKER for 15% off your first order. Shop Now Keep learning: Subscribe to my YouTube channel for weekly ENM insights, tips, and conversations. Subscribe Check your email. I will be sharing some resources you might enjoy over the next couple of weeks.