What Part of Your Life Have You Been Blowing Off?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Pick the one that sounds most like you right now:

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  • A.
    I just went through a big change — divorce, a move, kids leaving, retirement — and I’m still figuring out who I am now 
  • B.
    I’m standing at the edge of a big change and feeling the pull
  • C.
    Nothing dramatic happened but something feels quietly off 
  • D.
    I know exactly what’s missing. I just haven’t done anything about it yet.
• 2.
  It’s a free Saturday morning. No plans, no obligations. Your first instinct is:

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  • A.
    Sleep in — actually sleep in, not just lie there making a mental to-do.
  • B.
    Do something spontaneous, but you can’t figure out what that would even look like anymore.
  • C.
    Call someone, then put your phone down because you don’t want to bother anyone. 
  • D.
    Open the travel tab you’ve had bookmarked since February
• 3.
  When someone asks what you do for fun, you:

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  • A.
    Say “sleep” and mean it
  • B.
    Give an answer from four years ago because nothing current comes to mind 
  • C.
    Realize your social life was tied to a life you no longer have, the marriage, the town, the school pickup
  • D.
    Describe the version of your life you’re planning to start living soon
• 4.
  When you look at your calendar for the next 90 days you feel:

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  • A.
    Tired just looking at it 
  • B.
    Like every single entry is an obligation and nothing is just for fun 
  • C.
    Busy but somehow still lonely
  • D.
    Restless, nothing on there actually excites you 
• 5.
  Your inner voice is loudest when:

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  • A.
    You lie down to rest and your brain immediately starts running through everything you should be doing 
  • B.
    You’re doing something enjoyable and a voice says you should be doing something productive 
  • C.
    You’re in a room full of people who knew the old version of you and you’re not sure she still exists
  • D.
    You watch someone else living the version of your life you keep planning to start
• 6.
  The honest answer to “how are you?” is usually:

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  • A.
    "Exhausted, but fine.” 
  • B.
    “Fine. Just kind of going through the motions.” 
  • C.
    “Okay. A little lonely if I’m being honest.”
  • D.
    “Ready for something to change but not sure where to start.”
• 7.
  Complete this sentence — “I keep telling myself I’ll do it when…”

  • A.
    I’m less tired.
  • B.
    I figure out what I actually enjoy anymore.
  • C.
    I find the right people to do it with.
  • D.
    the timing is finally right.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Burned-Out Brenda

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  “She’s fine. She’s totally fine. She just hasn’t slept properly since 2009 and cries at commercials.”You’ve been taking care of everything and everyone for so long that rest stopped feeling like a choice and started feeling like something you have to earn.Here’s the truth: you’re not behind. You’re exhausted.Your life doesn’t start when you finally collapse. It starts when you stop waiting for permission to slow down.You don’t need another system. You need a different standard.Rest isn’t a reward. It’s the baseline.Start here: Set a bedtime and honor it twice this week.Follow-up: This is a season where your life is asking you to rest. And yeah… it feels hard AF to sit down because you think you haven’t earned it. You don’t earn rest. You practice it. This is where you learn how to slow down without everything falling apart
• 2.
  Too-Serious Tammy

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  “The last spontaneous thing she did was in 1998 and she’s still not sure it was a good idea. Her idea of fun is a very organized junk drawer.”When did you last do something just because it was fun?Not productive. Not networking. Not “good for you.” Just… fun.If you’re struggling to remember, that’s not a coincidence.Somewhere along the way, play got squeezed out by real life… and you quietly accepted it.It’s not that you don’t want fun. It’s that you forgot how to choose it without justifying it.You don’t need a hobby. You need to stop acting like joy has to be earned.Fun isn’t a bonus. It’s maintenance. And right now? You’re running on empty.Start here: Plan one thing this week that sounds fun… and actually follow through.If your brain immediately tried to turn that into something productive… that’s the pattern. This is a season where you stop earning your fun and start living it again. That might look like taking a random class, going to dinner on a Tuesday, dancing in your kitchen, or saying yes to something just because it sounds fun… not because it’s useful.
• 3.
  Finding-Her-People Faye

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  “She has 847 Facebook friends and hasn’t had a real conversation in three years.”This is the one nobody talks about.You can have a full life and still feel completely alone.Somewhere along the way, your friendships faded. Not dramatically. Just slowly… until you looked up and realized no one really knows this version of you.And rebuilding? It feels awkward. Vulnerable. Maybe even a little embarrassing to admit you need.But here’s the truth: you don’t need more people.You need one or two who actually get you now.The version of you who’s done shrinking, done performing, done pretending she has it all figured out.Start here: Text or DM one person: “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you. What’s one thing that made you smile this week?”If that message felt vulnerable or awkward to send… that’s exactly why it matters. This is a season where you stop waiting for the “right” people or the perfect moment… and start creating connection in real time.
• 4.
  Itchy-Feet Iris

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  "She has a Notes app list, a Pinterest board, three browser tabs open, and has done absolutely nothing about any of it."There's a list somewhere.Things you want to do. Ideas you keep circling. A version of your life you keep saying you'll get to "eventually."You've kept it just close enough to feel real… and just far enough away to never actually start.And honestly? Iris doesn't usually look scared. She looks prepared. Responsible. Reasonable.Meanwhile there's a tiny part of her quietly screaming: "Can we PLEASE do something before we're 87?" That's not a planning problem. That's fear dressed in sensible shoes.Here's the truth: you don't need another podcast, spreadsheet, or Notes app list. You don't need more clarity.You need movement.Pick ONE thing from your list and make it real this week. Book it. Sign up. Put money down. Pick a date.Because someday is sneaky. It makes us think we have forever.Ready usually shows up after you move. Not before.
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