I prefer to handle everything on my own rather than ask for help
A.
Not Me
B.
Sometimes Me
C.
Definitely Me
2.
I feel uncomfortable or vulnerable relying on others.
A.
Not Me
B.
Sometimes Me
C.
Definitely Me
3.
People see me as strong, but I often feel alone or unsupported.
A.
Not Me
B.
Sometimes Me
C.
Definitely Me
4.
I push through exhaustion instead of slowing down or asking for support.
A.
Not Me
B.
Sometimes Me
C.
Definitely Me
5.
I often say yes when I want to say no.
A.
Not me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
6.
I feel Guilty when I put myself first.
A.
Not me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
7.
I need approval before making decisions.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
8.
I avoid conflict even when it costs me.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
9.
I give in just to keep peace.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
10.
I struggle to say no and stick to it.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
11.
I sometimes pull away before others can leave me.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
12.
Criticism changes how I show up.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
13.
I crave connection but fear rejection.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
14.
I find it hard to rely on others.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
15.
I assume people won't keep promises.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
16.
I'd rather do it myself than risk disappointment.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Defiitely me
17.
I shut down when I have too many choices.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
18.
I avoid decisions until it's too late.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
19.
I procrastinate because I don't feel ready.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
20.
I beat myself up when I don't do things perfectly.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
21.
I replay mistakes in my mind often.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
22.
I sometimes choose to avoid judgement.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
23.
I feel my worth depends on what I achieve.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
24.
I push myself even when I'm exhausted.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
25.
Recognition makes me feel valuable.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
26.
I think in 'always/never' or 'all or nothing terms'.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
27.
Small mistakes often feel like total failure.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
28.
If it's not perfect, I'd rather not try.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
29.
I compare my looks to other often
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
30.
I avoid things because I don't feel attractive enough.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
31.
My worth feels tied to my appearance.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
32.
I keep score in relationships.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
33.
I get upset when things feel unequal.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
34.
I often think there's 'not enough'.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
35.
I hold back from investing myself.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
36.
Other people's success makes me feel like there's less for me.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
37.
I expect things to go wrong.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
38.
I lower expectations to avoid disappointment
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
39.
I doubt opportunites are real.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
40.
I feel pressure to represent my family/race/community.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
41.
I can't afford to fail because too much is at steak.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
42.
I feel like others opinions ride on my actions.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
43.
I struggle to know what I really need.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
44.
I put others first, then feel resentful.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
45.
I confuse their needs with mine.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
46.
I make decisions mostly to stay safe.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
47.
Growth feels too risky.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
48.
I rarely feel fully at ease.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
49.
I hold back opinions to avoid judgement.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
50.
I feel safer being unseen.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
51.
I often shrink so I won't be noticed.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
52.
I keep people at a distance.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
53.
I feel misunderstood often
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
54.
I prefer to do things alone.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
55.
I put other's needs before mine.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
56.
I feel guilty resting or receiving.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
57.
I measure my worth by how much I give.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
58.
I constantly measure myself against others.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
59.
Sometimes I feel 'less than,' sometimes, 'better than.'
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
60.
My worth shifts depending on comparison.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
61.
I rarely feel my choices are good enough.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
62.
I hesitate out of failing.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
63.
I can't move forward until it feels perfect.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
64.
I make choices aligned with my values.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
65.
I feel grounded and calm when deciding.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
66.
I honor myself and others without losing me.
A.
Never me
B.
Sometimes me
C.
Definitely me
Quiz Outcomes
1.
🔹 Independent Woman Voice
I learned that being self-reliant keeps me safe, in control, and protected from disappointment.But over time… that same strength can turn into isolation. I carry everything. I trust myself, but struggle to trust others.I'm praised for being “the strong one” … while quietly feeling like no one is there for you.
2.
🌸 The People-Pleaser Voice
💬 Your People-Pleaser Voice may be driving. It seeks belonging and approval, but often leaves you drained and invisible. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am loved when I’m authentic. Saying no can be caring.”
3.
🕊 The Peacekeeper Voice
💬 Your Peacekeeper Voice may be driving. It wants safety through harmony, but it often silences your truth. 👉 Secure Voice: “I can keep peace without losing myself.”
4.
✊ The Fear of Rejection Voice
💬 Your Fear of Rejection Voice may be driving. It tries to protect you from abandonment, but it can block closeness.👉 Secure Voice: “I can risk connection and still be safe.”
5.
🔒 The Distrusting Voice
💬 Your Distrusting Voice may be driving. It wants to shield you from hurt, but it can leave you isolated. 👉 Secure Voice: “I can choose wisely who to trust and still lean on support.”
6.
🌪 The Overwhelmed Voice
💬 Your Overwhelmed Voice may be driving. It wants relief from pressure, but it can stall progress. 👉 Secure Voice: “One small choice is still movement forward.”
7.
👤 The Inner Critic Voice
💬 Your Inner Critic Voice may be driving. It wants to keep you from shame but keeps you stuck in harshness. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am learning and growing, not failing.”
8.
💎 The Performance for Love Voice
💬 Your Performance for Love Voice may be driving. It wants love through achievement, but it leads to burnout. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am valuable for who I am, not just what I do.”
9.
⚡ The Extreme Voice
💬 Your Extreme Voice may be driving. It seeks certainty, but it traps you in rigidity. 👉 Secure Voice: “Balance and progress bring freedom.”
10.
💄 The Self-Image Voice
💬 Your Self-Image Voice may be driving. It wants love through appearance but often leaves you doubting. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am more than my reflection.”
11.
⚖️ The Fairness Voice
💬 Your Fairness Voice may be driving. It longs for justice, but it can fuel resentment.👉 Secure Voice: “I can give freely while honoring my limits.”
12.
🌑 The Lack Lens Voice
💬 Your Lack Lens Voice may be driving. It wants safety but blocks abundance. 👉 Secure Voice: “There is enough, and I can create more.”
13.
🕶 The Cynic / Skeptical Voice
💬 Your Cynic Voice may be driving. It wants to protect you from disappointment, but it can steal hope. 👉 Secure Voice: “I can be wise and still stay open.”
14.
✊ The Representation Voice
💬 Your Representation Voice may be driving. It seeks to uplift others but can weigh you down. 👉 Secure Voice: “I honor where I come from without carrying it all.”
15.
🪞 The Self-Awareness Lens
💬 Your Self-Awareness Lens may be driving. Without it, you blur boundaries. With it, you see yourself first, then others clearly. 👉 Secure Voice: “When I meet my needs, I can honor others authentically.”
16.
🛡 The Survivor Voice
💬 Your Survivor Voice may be driving. It kept you alive, but it can keep you small. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am safe enough to grow.”
17.
👤 The Invisible Voice
💬 Your Invisible Voice may be driving. It hides you for safety, but it costs your presence. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am safe to be seen.”
18.
🏝 The Loner Voice
💬 Your Loner Voice may be driving. It protects against hurt, but it can block connection. 👉 Secure Voice: “I can be strong alone and stronger with support.”
19.
🌹 The Over-Giver Voice
💬 Your Over-Giver Voice may be driving. It wants to feel valuable, but it leaves you empty. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am valuable when I give and when I rest.”
20.
🪞 The Comparer Voice
💬 Your Comparer Voice may be driving. It seeks identity through comparison but steals joy. 👉 Secure Voice: “I can celebrate me without measuring against others.”
21.
🌸 The Not Enough Voice
💬 Your Not Enough Voice may be driving. It longs for perfection but keeps you stuck. 👉 Secure Voice: “I am enough, even in progress.”
22.
🌱 The Secure Voice (Anchor)
💬 Your Secure Voice is in the driver’s seat. This is your calm, confident, authentic self. From here, you see yourself clearly and can truly see others. 👉 Secure Voice: “I move with clarity, compassion, and intention.”
