Which Leadership Pattern Is Running YOU Behind the Scenes?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When things get stressful, I usually...
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  Take on extra work myself
- B.
  Push against direction or authority
- C.
  Put things off until pressure builds
- D.
  Use humor to defuse tension
2.
When conflict shows up, I tend to...
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  Step in and fix it
- B.
  Avoid the conversation
- C.
  React emotionally and strongly
- D.
  Try to keep everyone happy
3.
When things go wrong, I tend to...
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  Increase effort to fix it
- B.
  Look for who is at fault
- C.
  Shut down or disengage
- D.
  Minimize it and move on
4.
My leadership tendency is to…
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  Do more than my share
- B.
  Question or resist direction
- C.
  Delay decisions
- D.
  Keep things light instead of serious
5.
When I feel pressure, I tend to...
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  Take full responsibility myself
- B.
  Challenge expectations
- C.
  Freeze and struggle to act
- D.
  Distract with humor or jokes
6.
In relationships at work, I usually...
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  Over-support others
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  Avoid difficult conversations
- C.
  Seek approval before acting
- D.
  Get emotionally overwhelmed
7.
My biggest leadership challenge is…
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  Letting go of control
- B.
  Trusting authority or systems
- C.
  Following through consistently
- D.
  Being taken seriously
8.
When uncertain, I tend to…
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  Work harder to create certainty
- B.
  Push back against guidance
- C.
  Wait for clarity before acting
- D.
  Downplay seriousness
9.
Others often experience me as…
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  Intense and driven
- B.
  Difficult or challenging
- C.
  Passive or withdrawn
- D.
  Entertaining or humorous
10.
When I’m not at my best, I tend to...
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  Take on too much
- B.
  Argue or resist
- C.
  Shut down completely
- D.
  Overreact emotionally
11.
I struggle most with…
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  Saying no
- B.
  Trusting others
- C.
  Starting tasks
- D.
  Staying grounded
12.
When I reflect on my behavior, I tend to…
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  Push myself harder to improve
- B.
  Question the system or rules
- C.
  Put off thinking about it
- D.
  Laugh it off or minimize it
13.
If I’m honest, I often…
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  Carry more than I should
- B.
  Create tension in groups
- C.
  Avoid reality or responsibility
- D.
  Get stuck in emotional loops

Quiz Outcomes

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Persecutor
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You're Leading from the Persecutor PatternWhen this pattern is running the show, leadership can become driven by control, criticism, and the need to stay one step ahead. You may push hard for results, hold impossibly high standards, or become frustrated when others don’t move as quickly or decisively as you do.The challenge is that what feels like strength to you can feel intimidating, dismissive, or unsafe to others. Over time, trust erodes, collaboration suffers, and relationships become driven by fear instead of respect.At the core of this pattern is often a deep belief that vulnerability equals weakness and that staying in control is the only way to avoid failure or disappointment.But here’s the shift: powerful leadership is not built through pressure.It’s built through connection, clarity, and trust.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize the hidden patterns driving their reactions and transform everyday interactions into opportunities for stronger communication, healthier teams, and lasting influence.Your leadership doesn’t have to rely on control to create results.It can create connection, accountability, and growth instead.
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Victim
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You’re Leading from the Victim PatternWhen this pattern takes over, it can feel like you’re constantly overlooked, underestimated, or unsupported. You may hold back in conversations, avoid visibility, or quietly question whether you’re truly capable enough to succeed.Instead of stepping fully into leadership, you may withdraw, second guess yourself, or avoid situations where you fear criticism, pressure, or judgment.The challenge is that this pattern can keep you stuck in hesitation and self protection, making it harder to take ownership, speak up, and trust your own strengths.But here’s the truth: your voice matters. Your perspective matters. And leadership is not about perfection. It’s about presence, responsibility, and growth.The moment you begin recognizing this pattern instead of reacting from it, everything starts to shift.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders break free from limiting patterns, strengthen communication, and build the confidence to lead with greater clarity, trust, and connection.You are not powerless.You are more capable than this pattern wants you to believe.It's time to start leading from your strengths instead of your fears.
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Martyr
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You’re Leading from the Martyr PatternWhen this pattern is running your leadership, you become the person everyone depends on. You step in, take over, solve problems, and carry more than your share because it feels easier to do it yourself than risk things falling apart.You work hard to be reliable, needed, and indispensable. Details matter deeply to you, and you often push yourself far beyond healthy limits to make sure everything is handled “the right way.”The challenge is that over time, this pattern creates exhaustion, resentment, and imbalance. Others may begin relying on you too heavily while you quietly feel unseen, overextended, or unappreciated.Leadership stops feeling collaborative and starts feeling heavy.At the core of this pattern is often the belief that your value comes from how much you do for others. But real leadership is not about carrying everyone. It’s about creating trust, accountability, and shared ownership.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize the hidden patterns driving over-functioning and transform the way they communicate, delegate, and lead.You do not have to earn your worth through exhaustion.You can lead powerfully without carrying everything alone.It's time to start leading with support instead of sacrifice.
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Avoider
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You’re Leading from the Avoider PatternWhen this pattern takes over, conflict can feel uncomfortable, draining, or even unsafe. You may sense tension immediately, but instead of addressing it directly, you step back, delay the conversation, or focus on something else that feels easier to manage.You often tell yourself you need more time to think, process, or regroup. But in reality, unresolved issues rarely disappear. They grow quietly beneath the surface.The challenge is that avoiding difficult conversations can create confusion, frustration, and mistrust within teams and relationships. Others may experience you as unavailable, unclear, or unwilling to take ownership when problems arise.At the core of this pattern is often a desire to avoid blame, discomfort, or emotional intensity.But strong leadership is not about avoiding tension. It’s about learning how to move through it with clarity, honesty, and connection.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize reactive patterns, strengthen communication, and build the confidence to handle difficult conversations in healthier and more productive ways.Avoiding conflict may create temporary relief.Facing it creates real growth, trust, and leadership strength.It's time to start leading with confidence instead of retreating from difficult moments.
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Clown
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You’re Leading from the Clown PatternWhen this pattern takes over, humor becomes your first line of defense.You read the room quickly and know exactly how to lighten the mood, shift attention, or redirect tension with a sharp comment or a well timed joke. It can feel natural, even helpful, especially in moments that might otherwise feel uncomfortable.Underneath it, though, the humor is doing more than connecting people. It is also helping you avoid deeper emotional ground.You often bring in quick wit, trivia, or playful commentary that keeps conversations moving, but not necessarily going deeper. What starts as light engagement can slowly become a way of steering away from seriousness, vulnerability, or conflict.Over time, colleagues may enjoy your energy but still feel something is missing. Important conversations do not land fully. Tension gets diffused but not resolved. And others may struggle to experience you as fully grounded when things get real.At the core of this pattern is often a deep discomfort with being seen in a serious or vulnerable way, along with a learned belief that staying entertaining is safer than being fully transparent.But leadership is not performance. It is presence. And real influence comes from knowing when humor opens connection and when it quietly keeps distance in place.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize these automatic patterns and shift them into more authentic communication. The goal is not to lose your humor, but to use it consciously so it strengthens trust, clarity, and real collaboration.When humor becomes choice instead of shield, it becomes one of your greatest leadership assets.
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Rescuer
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You’re Leading from the Rescuer PatternWhen this pattern takes over, you are quick to step in and help. You notice when someone is struggling, overwhelmed, or uncertain, and your first instinct is to take action, offer solutions, or carry part of the load yourself. It can feel natural, even generous, to become the person others can rely on in a moment of need.Over time, though, helping can become automatic rather than intentional. You may find yourself drawn into problems that were not originally yours, offering advice before it is asked for, or taking responsibility for outcomes that others still need to own. The line between support and over involvement can start to blur.In relationships and teams, this can unintentionally create dependency. Others may lean on you to step in, fix, or stabilize situations, while also feeling subtly dis-empowered or bypassed in their own growth. And you may quietly feel drained, underappreciated, or responsible for more than your fair share.At the core of this pattern is often a deep sensitivity to others’ struggles and a desire to be needed, valued, or connected through usefulness.But strong leadership is not about carrying everything for everyone. It is about knowing when support builds capacity and when stepping back creates strength.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize these automatic patterns and shift into healthier, more conscious forms of support that strengthen trust, ownership, and collaboration.When you move from rescuing to empowering, you stop solving everything for others—and start building leaders around you.
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Splitter
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You’re Leading from the Splitter PatternWhen this pattern takes over, you come across as warm, friendly, and highly approachable. You know how to build rapport quickly, make people feel comfortable, and create a sense of closeness that feels easy and natural.Underneath that ease, though, there is often a quieter strategy at play. You may gather information through conversation, subtle curiosity, or personal sharing, and then use it to strengthen your influence, align yourself with key people, or stay “in the loop” across different sides of a situation.Because you appear so agreeable and trustworthy, others may not immediately notice when boundaries are being crossed or when information is being carried between people in ways that can complicate trust.Over time, this can create hidden tension in teams or relationships, where people feel both connected to you and unsure about where their information really lands.At the core of this pattern is often a strong desire to belong, stay included, and maintain access to relationships and opportunities by staying close to everyone.But leadership is not about access alone. It is about integrity in how trust is held.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize these subtle relational patterns and shift into clearer, more grounded communication that builds trust without hidden undercurrents.When connection is rooted in transparency, trust becomes stable instead of fragile.
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Rebel
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You’re Leading from the Rebel PatternWhen this pattern takes over, you naturally push against structure, expectations, and authority. You question rules, resist control, and feel most energized when you are challenging what feels rigid, outdated, or imposed.At your best, this brings innovation and necessary disruption. But when the pattern is running unconsciously, resistance can become automatic. You may delay, push back, or disengage not because of the situation itself, but because it feels like pressure from the outside.This can show up as missed deadlines, pushing boundaries, or doing things your own way just to maintain a sense of independence. While it may feel like self-protection or freedom, it can also create friction, inconsistency, and mistrust with others who are relying on structure and follow through.Underneath this pattern is often a strong need for autonomy and a deep sensitivity to feeling controlled or judged.But leadership is not defined by opposition. It is defined by conscious choice.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize reactive resistance and transform it into intentional leadership that channels independence into clarity, creativity, and trust.When you are no longer reacting against authority, you begin leading from your own grounded authority.
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Pleaser
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You’re Leading from the Pleaser PatternWhen this pattern takes over, your focus shifts toward keeping harmony at all costs. You become highly attuned to what others want, expect, or might approve of, and you adjust yourself accordingly to avoid tension or disapproval.Speaking up can feel risky, so you often hold back honest opinions or soften your perspective to make sure others stay comfortable. You may agree quickly, overextend yourself, or take on more than you realistically can in order to maintain connection and avoid conflict.Over time, this can lead to internal pressure and quiet resentment, as your own needs, limits, and preferences get pushed aside in favor of keeping others happy. People may see you as agreeable and dependable, but not always fully clear or grounded in your own position.At the core of this pattern is often a deep desire to belong and be accepted, along with a fear that honesty might disrupt connection.But leadership is not about constant agreement. It is about authentic presence.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize these approval driven patterns and build the confidence to communicate honestly, set boundaries, and stay connected without self abandonment.When you stop leading for approval, you start leading with integrity.
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Procrastinator
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You’re Leading from the Procrastinator PatternWhen this pattern takes over, starting feels harder than it should. You may have the intention, the ideas, and even the clarity about what needs to be done, but action gets delayed until pressure builds or urgency takes over.At times, it can look like avoidance, distraction, or waiting for the “right moment” to begin. Other times, it can show up as busy work that keeps you active but not moving on what actually matters most. Deadlines approach, communication gets stretched, and follow through becomes inconsistent.This can create frustration for others who are relying on your timing and commitments, and over time it can quietly erode trust and reliability in both personal and professional settings.At the core of this pattern is often a mix of overwhelm, pressure to get things right, or difficulty engaging when something feels unclear or too large to start cleanly.But leadership is not about perfect timing. It is about consistent action.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize avoidance cycles and build practical systems for follow through, clarity, and momentum without the weight of perfectionism.When you move from delay to direction, trust rebuilds—and progress becomes steady instead of stressful.
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Super Achiever
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You’re Leading from the Super Achiever PatternWhen this pattern takes over, success becomes the driving force behind nearly every decision. You push yourself to excel, stand out, and prove capability through performance, often holding yourself to extremely high standards.At the same time, your identity can become closely tied to achievement. Being seen as competent, exceptional, or “the one who gets it done” can start to matter as much as the outcome itself. Feedback or criticism may feel personal, triggering a strong need to explain, defend, or reestablish credibility.In relationships and teams, this can sometimes create distance. Others may experience pressure, comparison, or hesitation around you, even when your intentions are positive and driven by excellence.At the core of this pattern is often a deep drive to be valued through achievement and a fear that worth might be questioned if performance slips.But leadership is not only about being exceptional. It is about being connected while you excel.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize achievement driven patterns and develop a more grounded sense of success that includes openness, collaboration, and emotional intelligence.When success is no longer used as protection, it becomes a bridge instead of a barrier.
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Drama Queen
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You’re Leading from the Drama Queen/King PatternWhen this pattern takes over, emotions move quickly and strongly, and expression becomes amplified. You are highly expressive, impactful, and unafraid to bring intensity into the room when something matters to you.At times, that intensity can escalate situations faster than intended. Small issues can feel urgent or charged, and your reaction may create a larger emotional wave that draws attention and shifts the energy of the environment.While this can make you impossible to ignore and often very compelling, it can also leave others feeling unsettled or unsure how to respond once the moment passes.At the core of this pattern is often a heightened emotional sensitivity and a strong need to be seen, heard, and taken seriously in the moment.But leadership is not about amplifying emotion for impact. It is about directing emotion with awareness.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize emotional escalation patterns and transform them into grounded, clear communication that still holds presence without losing steadiness.When emotion is guided instead of amplified, it becomes influence rather than disruption.
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Denier
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You’re Leading from the Denier PatternWhen this pattern takes over, you default to keeping things calm on the surface, even when underlying issues are asking for attention. You may notice problems, tension, or inefficiencies, but choose to minimize them or assume they will resolve on their own.There is often a strong preference for stability, ease, and emotional comfort, which can make it feel disruptive or overwhelming to address conflict directly. As a result, concerns may be softened, delayed, or unintentionally overlooked in order to preserve a sense of peace.Over time, this can allow small issues to grow into larger ones. Teams may become unclear about expectations, performance problems may persist longer than they should, and others may feel uncertain about what is really being addressed and what is being avoided.At the core of this pattern is often a deep desire for harmony and a fear that confronting reality might create unnecessary disruption or discomfort.But leadership is not about maintaining the appearance of calm. It is about engaging with reality clearly and responsibly.My Total Leadership Connections Program helps leaders recognize avoidance of truth and build the confidence to address issues directly while maintaining respect, steadiness, and connection.When you stop protecting comfort over clarity, you create environments where truth can actually support growth.