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Quiz Questions

1.
First of all, the night before a high-stakes presentation, pitch, or hard conversation... what are you most likely doing?
- A.
  Going over it again. And again. Thinking, if I can just get it airtight, I'll be good. Practice makes perfect.
- B.
  Honestly, trying not to think about it. Hoping that if I don't dwell, I won't spiral. Trying to tell myself that it’s actually no big deal.
- C.
  Thinking about how I'll come across, what to wear, how to say it, what tone to take, where to look. Basically, mentally rehearsing how to seem like I've got this.
- D.
  Telling myself I just need to get through it quickly without making it into such a thing.
- E.
  I let myself dream a little about my audience — who they are, what they're carrying, what I genuinely want them to walk away with. I plan where and when I'm going to schedule in a short warm-up beforehand. And I aim for a good night's sleep. I've learned that self-trust is also a form of preparation.
2.
Someone tells you that you seemed "a little flat" or "hard to read" in a recent presentation. Your gut response is...
- A.
  Ugh, I knew it. I should have prepared more. I need to do better next time; I just need more discipline.
- B.
  That tracks. I kind of blacked out while I was up there. It's a defense mechanism I don't totally know how to stop.
- C.
  That stings — because I tried to seem as confident as humanly possible. Now I'm second-guessing everything.
- D.
  Honestly, not surprised. I was rushing to finish. I didn't want to take up too much of everyone's time and I figured the quicker the better so they could move on to focus on other stuff.
- E.
  That surprises me — because I was pretty present in there and felt the energy from the audience. I'd want to know more. What specifically landed flat? I'm always looking for the gap between my intention and my impact, and what words work best to carry my message, so I'm open to feedback.
3.
When you watch someone give a talk that genuinely moves the room — the kind where you feel something shift — what's your first internal reaction?
- A.
  How did they do that? Like, literally. Was it a formula? Was it how they prepared? Or is it just that X-factor that some people have and some don’t?
- B.
  A kind of ache. Like I think that might be possible for me but I can't quite access it. I don't know where I go when I'm up there.
- C.
  Admiration but also… an unsettling feeling like, they made it look so effortless. I work so hard to put on a good performance and make the room come alive... and it still doesn't feel like that.
- D.
  Quietly wondering if that’s just not me, taking up that kind of space in a room. Maybe I don't even want to.
- E.
  Pure joy. And recognition — because I've been there too, or at least am getting closer. I AM curious what they were thinking about right before they started, though. I suspect it wasn't about themselves.
4.
Do you secretly wish high-stakes moments didn't just feel easier — but somehow... sweeter? Like you were so fully yourself that the room couldn't help but meet you there?
- A.
  I mean, I'd settle for just not dreading it. "Sweetness" seems like a lot to ask, and sort of of ridiculous.
- B.
  Honestly, I haven't let myself want that. It feels out of reach. And I’d be disappointed if I set myself up for that goal and didn’t hit it.
- C.
  I've had flashes of it — moments where something clicked and I felt genuinely alive up there. I want more of that. It just feels so random, though, like it's out of my hands.
- D.
  Yes. Completely yes. I just don't think (if I’m being totally honest) I'm the kind of person who gets to have that.
- E.
  Yes — and I've actually felt it. Not every time, but enough times to know it's real and it’s the good stuff. Like we’re all just humaning together and it’s beautiful.
5.
Finally, finish this sentence as truthfully as you can: "When I'm about to speak in front of others, the thing I'm most protecting is..."
- A.
  My credibility. I've worked hard to be taken seriously and I can't afford to blow it.
- B.
  Myself, I think. Something about being fully seen feels genuinely dangerous.
- C.
  The gap between confident-me and who I actually am at my most vulnerable. I'm terrified someone will notice the gap.
- D.
  Other people's comfort, mostly. It doesn’t sound great to admit but truly I don't want to be too much, take too long, or need too much from the room. It’s just safer that way.
- E.
  I'm protecting their experience. My ideas. Our shared time together. I feel like I’m the steward of something bigger than myself and I’m here to do that justice.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Said with all the love...
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You show up but you're wearing armor. It may be that you want to be good so bad, you grip the whole thing too tight. Check your email for the full story.
2.
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Too often you disconnect — voice from body, you from room — and end up seeming like you don't care, even though the truth is you care enormously. Check your email for the full story.
3.
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You show up as a super polished version of yourself. The room hums on as usual. You feel oddly empty. Check your email for the full story.
4.
Said with all the love...
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You get through it fast, take up as little space as possible, and avoid being an inconvenience. It doesn't feel great and it MAY even be that the room wanted more, although it's hard to know. Check your email for the full story.
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Hi, permissionary...
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You've found it — or you're very close. Check your email for the full story.