What's Actually Keeping You From Trusting Yourself & Going After What You Want?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  You have a big decision to make. What usually happens?

  • A.
    I think through every possible outcome because I really do not want to make the wrong choice.
  • B.
    I immediately start figuring out everything I would need to handle to make it work.
  • C.
    Deep down I usually know what I want, but choosing it might mean changing more than I am ready for.
  • D.
    I want to know what the people I trust think before I decide.
  • E.
    I usually have a pretty good idea of what I want. Actually making it happen might take me a while.
• 2.
  You see someone else doing something you want for yourself. What usually happens?

  • A.
    I start wondering if I'm doing enough or if I'm behind.
  • B.
    I think about everything I already have going on and wonder where I'd even find the time.
  • C.
    I think, "Ugh, I've been wanting to do that too," and realize I still haven't done anything about it.
  • D.
    I start comparing where they are to where I am and questioning what I'm doing.
  • E.
    It reminds me there's a part of me that wants something different too, but I'm not sure what to do with that yet.
• 3.
  You've made a decision you're excited about, but someone close to you doesn't get it. What happens?

  • A.
    I immediately start wondering if they're seeing something I'm not.
  • B.
    Part of me wonders if this new direction is really "me"
  • C.
    It usually doesn't change how I feel about it. If I know I want it, I'm pretty comfortable with that.
  • D.
    I go back through the decision in my head to make sure I haven't missed something
  • E.
    I feel like I need to explain myself so they'll understand where I'm coming from.
• 4.
  You get an idea you're genuinely excited about. What happens next?

  • A.
    I start questioning whether it's realistic, smart or actually a good idea
  • B.
    I get excited, then realize going after it might require me to become someone I've never been before.
  • C.
    I immediately start thinking about everything I'd need to do to make it happen.
  • D.
    I tell someone about it, and their reaction can completely change how I feel.
  • E.
    I get really excited about it and fully intend to do something with it....eventually.
• 5.
  You finally do something you've been wanting to do for yourself. What are you most likely to think afterward?

  • A.
    I hope no one is upset or thinks differently of me because of it.
  • B.
    Okay, now I need to make sure everything else still gets taken care of.
  • C.
    I hope I made the right call.
  • D.
    Why did it take me so long to let myself do that?
• 6.
  You know you want to make a change. What's most likely to keep you where you are?

  • A.
    Thinking about everything I'd have to manage or figure out.
  • B.
    Letting go of what's familiar, even if I know I want something different.
  • C.
    I just keep thinking I'll get to it when the timing is better.
  • D.
    Wondering what other people think.
  • E.
    Not knowing whether I'm making the right decision.
• 7.
  Your calendar is packed but a new opportunity appears. What do you notice first?

  • A.
    I want to say yes, but part of me wonders if I'm really ready for something different.
  • B.
    I start weighing whether it's actually worth it or if I should stick with what I'm already doing.
  • C.
    I immediately think about everything I'd have to rearrange to or take care of first.
  • D.
    I'm excited about it and definitely want to do it....I just don't know when I'll actually get to it.
  • E.
    I start wondering what everyone else will think if I say yes.
• 8.
  Which would feel the most freeing right now?

  • A.
    Actually doing the thing I keep saying I'm going to do.
  • B.
    Realizing I don't have to be the one who handles everything.
  • C.
    Giving myself permission to want something completely different.
  • D.
    Doing something before I feel 100% sure it's going to work.
  • E.
    Making a decision without needing anyone else to agree with it.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Second Guesser

  Here’s what I find interesting about second-guessing...A lot of the time, you actually had an answer before you started questioning it. You knew what you wanted. Something felt right. You were excited about the idea. And then someone had an opinion.Or you started thinking about what everyone else would do.Or how someone might react.And suddenly you’re looking at your own answer like... wait, do I actually know what I’m doing? Getting another perspective isn’t a bad thing. I call my friends too. But there’s a difference between wanting someone’s perspective and needing their answer before you can trust your own. And if you’ve gotten used to checking outside yourself first, it can become really hard to tell the difference.Something to notice: Before you ask someone else what they think, ask yourself first.What do I think?What did I know before everyone else got a vote?You can still call the friend after. Just make sure you’re part of the conversation too.Ready to trust your own answer a little more?If you keep finding yourself looking outside yourself for answers, we can get curious about what’s underneath that together.Maybe it’s worrying about disappointing someone. Maybe it’s comparison. Maybe there’s something completely different underneath it that you haven’t connected yet.That’s what we can explore in a 1:1 session.You bring me what’s happening. We’ll start pulling at the thread together and use whatever combination of coaching, emotional clearing, energy work, meditation, breathwork, body awareness, or intuitive insight makes sense for you.
• 2.
  The One Who Does It All

  There’s a good chance some version of “I’ve got it” comes pretty naturally to you.You figure things out. You handle what needs to be handled. You’re probably the person other people know they can count on.And being capable is a great thing.But I’ve been thinking about how easy it is to confuse “I can do this” with “I want to do this.”Because you probably can handle it.The packed schedule. The extra responsibility. Figuring something out on your own. Making sure everything gets done.But when handling things becomes automatic, what you actually want can get lost somewhere in everything that needs your attention.Sometimes choosing yourself means realizing that being capable of carrying something doesn’t mean you have to keep carrying it.Something to notice: Where are you automatically thinking “I’ve got it” without stopping to ask yourself, “Do I actually want to?”You might be surprised by the answer.What would happen if you didn’t have to hold all of it?If this result hit a little too close to home, this is something we can look at together in a 1:1 session.You can bring me the situation that’s taking up too much space, the thing you’re tired of handling, or even just the feeling that something needs to change but you’re not sure what.We’ll start there and follow what comes up.I may use coaching, emotional clearing, energy work, meditation, breathwork, body awareness, or intuitive insight depending on what feels supportive for you.
• 3.
  The Overthinker

  You probably don’t have a problem coming up with options.You think things through. You want to make a good decision. And there’s nothing wrong with that.But sometimes all that thinking takes you further away from the answer instead of closer to it.You can feel really good about something at first, then start wondering if it’s actually the right move. You think about what could go wrong, whether you’re missing something, or if there’s a better option you haven’t considered yet.And suddenly the thing you felt pretty clear about doesn’t feel so clear anymore.I think sometimes we overthink because we’re trying to get to a place where there’s no risk left. If I think about this long enough, maybe I’ll finally KNOW I’m making the right choice.Except some choices just don’t come with that kind of certainty.Part of trusting yourself is being able to make a decision without knowing exactly how everything is going to turn out.Something to notice: The next time you catch yourself going back and forth, ask yourself what you thought or wanted before you started trying to figure it all out.Want to see what’s underneath the overthinking?This is exactly the kind of thing we can explore together in a 1:1 session.We’ll look at what’s actually keeping you stuck, what might be underneath it, and what you need to move forward trusting yourself a little more.Depending on what comes up, I may pull from coaching, emotional clearing, energy work, meditation, breathwork, body awareness, or intuitive insight.You don’t need to know what you need before you come. Just bring me the thing you keep going back and forth about.
• 4.
  The Hesitater

  I have a feeling there are things you already know you want to change.Maybe something doesn’t fit the way it used to. Maybe you want something you didn’t want before. Or you can see a version of your life that looks different from the one you’re living now.The hard part isn’t necessarily knowing that.It’s actually choosing it.Because even when we want something different, there can be something really comfortable about what we already know.You know who you are here.You know how this version of your life works.And choosing something different might mean changing your mind, disappointing someone, taking a risk, or becoming a version of yourself you haven’t met yet.That can bring up a LOT.But wanting something different doesn’t mean you made the wrong choices before.Maybe you’ve just changed.Something to notice: Where do you already know you want something different, but keep waiting to feel more ready before you let yourself choose it?Maybe you don’t need to figure out the next version alone.This is one of my favorite things to explore in a 1:1 session because there’s often so much underneath the hesitation.We can start with whatever you know right now, even if that’s simply, “I know something needs to change, but I don’t know what to do.”We’ll look at what might be keeping you where you are, what you actually want, and whatever comes up along the way.I may pull from coaching, emotional clearing, energy work, meditation, breathwork, body awareness, or intuitive insight depending on what you need.
• 5.
  The Not Yet Girl

  You probably know what you want more often than you realize. You have ideas. There are things you want to do, change, try, start, or make happen.And you’re not necessarily afraid of any of it.You’re going to do it.Just... maybe not right now. 😂Maybe when work calms down. When you have more time. When this other thing is taken care of. When life feels a little less busy.And honestly, all of those reasons can be completely valid.But I’ve been thinking about how easy it is for “not right now” to quietly turn into six months from now.Especially when the thing you want isn’t urgent.No one is waiting on you to do it. There’s no deadline. Nothing terrible happens if you keep putting it off, so it stays on the list.I think that’s what makes this pattern so easy to miss.You might not feel stuck. You might actually be really decisive in other parts of your life. You can make a decision, handle change, figure things out, and move pretty quickly when something needs your attention.But when it’s something you want just because you want it?That’s where “not yet” can sneak in.Maybe this isn’t about needing to trust yourself more. Maybe it’s noticing where you already know what you want and asking yourself why it keeps becoming something you’ll get to eventually.Something to notice: What’s something you’ve been saying you want to do, change, try, or make happen that you keep putting off until “later”?And... how long have you been saying that?You might already know exactly what I’m talking about. 😂What if you stopped waiting for someday?If there’s something you’ve wanted for a while but keep not quite getting around to, this is something we can explore together in a 1:1 session.Not from a place of “you just need to do it.”I’m way more interested in why you haven’t.Because sometimes there’s something underneath “I don’t have time” or “I’ll do it later” that we don’t see until we actually start looking at it.You bring me the thing you keep saying you’re going to do. We’ll start there and follow what comes up.I may use coaching, emotional clearing, energy work, meditation, breathwork, body awareness, or intuitive insight depending on what feels supportive for you.