Was Your Sibling Part of the Abuse in Your Narcissistic Family?

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  Did your sibling/siblings believe your mother's version of events without asking for yours?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 2.
  Did your sibling/siblings participate in gossip, exclusion, or a smear campaign against you?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    sometimes
• 3.
  Were things you told your sibling/siblings repeated back to a parent?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 4.
  Were you and your sibling/siblings treated very differently growing up?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 5.
  Has your sibling/siblings minimized or dismissed your childhood because they had a different experience?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 6.
  Do you feel like you have to defend or explain yourself whenever you're around them?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 7.
  Even after distancing yourself from your parent/parents, does the sibling/siblings relationship keep the old family dynamics alive?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 8.
  Did your sibling/siblings receive approval or protection by siding with your mother?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 9.
  Did your sibling/siblings tell people outside your family that you were the problem?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes
• 10.
  When you set boundaries did your sibling/siblings ignore them?

  • A.
    Almost Always
  • B.
    Never
  • C.
    Sometimes

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  The Sibling Betrayal Wound.

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  Your answer indicates your siblings participated in the narcissistic abuse—When a narcissistic parent turns your siblings into "flying monkeys"—enablers recruited to do the narcissist's bidding and carry out their abuse, the psychological harm runs just as deep as the primary abuse.To protect their fragile self-image, the narcissist targets you (the intuitive truth-seeker) and trains your siblings to discredit you, painting you as the problem to control the narrative.Siblings usually go along with this for three main reasons:Self-preservation: Fear of becoming the next target.Incentive: Financial, material, or emotional rewards.Unawareness: Complete blindness to the manipulation taking place.Regardless of their motives, weaponizing family against you was abusive, damaging, and unjust. None of it was ever your fault.Save 20% on Your Recommended Workbook. As a thank-you for taking the quiz, you can save 20% on the workbook recommended for your result. Use coupon code Quiz1 at checkout.Disclaimer: This assessment is for education and self-reflection only. It does not diagnose narcissism or abuse and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.
• 2.
  The Sibling Loyalty Wound

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  Your answer indicates your sibling may not have directly abused or targeted you, but when it mattered, they sided with your narcissistic parent instead of standing beside you. They may have believed the parent's version of events, minimized what happened to you, defended the parent, or stayed silent to protect their own place in the family.That can leave a deep wound: “Why didn't you see what was happening to me? Why didn't you stand up for me?”Their participation may have been less direct, but your hurt and sense of betrayal are still valid.Healing focus: Learning to trust your own experience even when your sibling refuses to acknowledge it.Save 20% on Your Recommended Workbook. As a thank-you for taking the quiz, you can save 20% on the workbook recommended for your result. Use coupon code Quiz1 at checkout.Disclaimer: This assessment is for education and self-reflection only. It does not diagnose narcissism or abuse and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.
• 3.
  The Sibling Disconnection Wound

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  Your sibling may have been caught in the same dysfunctional family system, but was not a major participant in the abuse against you. Instead, the family dynamics may have created distance, competition, misunderstanding, or a sibling relationship that never felt truly safe or close.You may still grieve the relationship you wish you could have had.Healing focus: Separate your sibling’s behavior from the dysfunction created by the family system. If you continue to feel disrespected, dismissed, or disconnected, healing may include building stronger boundaries and deciding what kind of relationship feels healthy for you today.Save 20% on Your Recommended Workbook. As a thank-you for taking the quiz, you can save 20% on the workbook recommended for your result. Use coupon code Quiz1 at checkout.Disclaimer: This assessment is for education and self-reflection only. It does not diagnose narcissism or abuse and is not a substitute for professional mental health care.