Is your Child's Self-Esteem at Risk?

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Quiz Questions

1.
How often are they highly reactive with large displays of negative emotion that may be hard for loved ones to handle?
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- A.
  Often. Few times a week or more
- B.
  Occasionally
- C.
  Rarely
2.
Are they able to be vulnerable, articulate what's wrong, name their emotions and problem solve with you?
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- A.
  No, we have a hard time with this most days.
- B.
  I know they can but they struggle sometimes.
- C.
  Yes, most of the time.
3.
Do they have high (some would say unattainable) expectations for themselves and feel crushed when they don’t meet them?
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- A.
  Yes, I feel like they're really hard on themself.
- B.
  In some areas-yes, some areas-not as much.
- C.
  No, they have a lot of self-compassion.
4.
Do they have opportunities to be involved in something bigger than themselves? ex: team sport, club, scouts, etc.
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- A.
  Yes, they feel like they belong there.
- B.
  Not currently, but have in the past
- C.
  No - it's been a negative experience or unsuccessful
5.
Do they show signs of insecurity like struggling to apologize, having a hard time losing, blaming, lying to save face or making excuses?
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- A.
  Yes, quite often.
- B.
  Sometimes, not always.
- C.
  Rarely. I'm not concerned.
6.
Do they have recent and regular evidence that shows them what they’re capable of?
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- A.
  Yes, they say they are proud of themselves often.
- B.
  I'm proud of them but they seem to fixate on their mistakes or struggles.
- C.
  Lately it's been harder and harder to get them to do simple daily tasks, let alone help them see what they're capable of.
7.
Do they receive negative feedback from others? Examples: low grades, pulling out of class, suspensions, time outs, privileges taken away, criticism...
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- A.
  Yes, unfortunately often.
- B.
  On occasion but not the norm. It's improving.
- C.
  Very rarely.
8.
Would your child say they have strong, safe relationships with two (or more) parents?
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- A.
  Yes, I'm confident.
- B.
  I think so.
- C.
  One is strong, the other(s) are more unstable.
- D.
  No, we're all struggling.
9.
Does your child say self-deprecating things about themselves? Ex: "I'm stupid, I'm a bad kid, I want to disappear..."
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- A.
  Yes, too often and it breaks my heart.
- B.
  Sometimes when they're really frustrated.
- C.
  Very rarely
10.
Are there other adult mentor(s) in your child's life that think they're *AWESOME* and shower them with love? Ex: aunt, private lessons teacher, past teacher, babysitter
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- A.
  Yes, several we see often.
- B.
  A few, but we don't see them regularly.
- C.
  No, we don't have much community.
- D.
  No, most of our extended family is critical of them.
11.
Do they struggle to make and keep friends due to social anxiety, confusion and/or introversion?
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- A.
  Yes, they have experienced bullying or their bossiness has pushed people away.
- B.
  Yes, they are very shy or don't realize when they're being left out.
- C.
  They are content with having a few core friends.
- D.
  No, they have many friends and it feels effortless to them.
12.
How much has your child noticed and made comments about how they are different from their peers?
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- A.
  We've had a few heartbreaking conversations about this.
- B.
  They are starting to notice and ask questions.
- C.
  They haven't seemed to notice.
- D.
  I feel confident, knowing what to say if/when this comes up.
13.
(if applicable) Have you disclosed their diagnosis to/with them?
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- A.
  N/A
- B.
  Yes, we talk about it often.
- C.
  Not yet, I'm not sure how to talk about it.
- D.
  Yes, but I don't bring it up.
14.
How much structure does your home offer currently?
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- A.
  Family monthly calendar, some daily routines
- B.
  Child-friendly weekly calendar, daily routine charts
- C.
  Calendars & routines + Weekly family meetings, clearly defined family rules/expectations for everyone, fun "everyday" rituals/traditions
- D.
  Seasonal traditions and relatively consistent expectations
15.
(if applicable) What are the sibling relationships like in your home?
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- A.
  N/A - they are an only child.
- B.
  Filled with rivalry, aggression, arguments, borderline bullying.
- C.
  An average amount of fighting and picking on each other.
- D.
  They are able to solve problems together, have respect for each other and can be good friends at times.
16.
How often do you feel overwhelmed, confused, frustrated, or anxious when parenting?
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- A.
  ALL. THE. TIME.
- B.
  Several times a week.
- C.
  Occasionally
- D.
  Rarely
17.
Do you feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them all the time? Ex: “Our whole world revolves around not upsetting his apple cart”
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- A.
  Nearly 100% of the time.
- B.
  Often. It dominates the family dynamic.
- C.
  A "normal" amount compared to any other family/child
- D.
  I feel confident managing their disappointment, setting boundaries, and giving equal-ish attention to all my kids.
18.
How much do you, yourself, struggle with self-worth, self-compassion, people pleasing, and/or accommodating your own neurodivergence?
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- A.
  A lot. I'm working on it, but I'm trying to teach what I was never taught. It's really hard.
- B.
  I've done a lot of work on this but have more to go.
- C.
  I've come a long way and I'm proud of myself!
19.
How much of their life have you parented in ways that could be categorized as "highly reactive", "with a temper" and/or using traditional tools that you can now see didn't benefit them? ex: yelling, a therapy that backfired, etc.
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- A.
  The majority - I'm still there in many ways.
- B.
  Many influential years I regret.
- C.
  Only a short time before learning & growing in important ways.
- D.
  I feel like I've done a pretty good job, but their other parent(s) still has work to do.
20.
Is there a history of mental illness in your child's families? (ex: substance abuse, depression, anxiety, other)
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- A.
  Yes, a strong link.
- B.
  A few (more distant) instances.
- C.
  None that we know of.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Mild/Average Risk
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You have relationships, routines & support in place as protective factors for your child's mental health. Great job!While no one is immune to influence from their experiences and environment, you're setting your child up for success by leveraging your own contribution.Check your email to review the Confidence Blueprint.Keep up your hard work. It matters!Tiered layers of support open soon.First round of families to join access a reduced rate!
2.
Elevated Risk
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Your child's self-esteem has been affected by several factors in their life already, but you're aware of it and taking steps to support them!Your influence over the next few years matters greatly.Make your energy count by learning what will make the biggest difference in the future and invest in the support you both need to make it happen.Check your email to review the Confidence Blueprint.Tiered layers of support open soon.First families to join access a reduced rate!
3.
HIGH Risk
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Your child may be struggling with insecurity, anxiety, and/or finding belonging.The time to intervene is NOW.You have the opportunity to put measures in place that pay off for years to come.Let's bring out the best in them- so they see it too!Tiered layers of support open soon.First families to join access a reduced rate!