Lifestyle Load Assessment

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When life starts feeling overloaded, which of these feels most true for you?

  • A.
    I put myself at the bottom of the list.
  • B.
    My relationship gets neglected.
  • C.
    Work is usually what causes the overload.
  • D.
    My brain feels too overloaded to focus on anything, including work.
  • E.
    My home, schedule,and everyday things start to feel out of control.
  • F.
    Honestly, all of it!
• 2.
  At the end of a typical week, what's the first thing that quietly slips?

  • A.
    My own rest or self-care.
  • B.
    Time with my partner.
  • C.
    Boundaries with work.
  • D.
    Mental focus and follow-through.
  • E.
    Upkeep at home.
  • F.
    Honestly, all of it!
• 3.
  Which area feels most strained week-to-week?

  • A.
    I'm skipping my own needs.
  • B.
    My relationship gets whatever's left over.
  • C.
    Often my brain feels fried, even when nothing's happening.
  • D.
    Home stuff keeps slipping.
  • E.
    Literally, my life is a mess- all of it!
  • F.
    Work takes over and everything else feels the strain!
• 4.
  You magically get a full week off. What are you doing first?

  • A.
    Probably checking work anyway because I can’t fully switch off.
  • B.
    Spending real uninterrupted time with my spouse.
  • C.
    Honestly, just shutting my brain off, binge watching TV, and vegging out all week.
  • D.
    Getting the house under control and organized.
  • E.
    Going to do things I want to do and enjoy myself.
  • F.
    A little bit of ALL of the above!
• 5.
  What do you keep telling yourself you’ll get to “when things calm down”?

  • A.
    Taking better care of myself.
  • B.
    Spending more quality time with my partner.
  • C.
    Giving my brain a real mental break .
  • D.
    Getting my house back under control.
  • E.
    Setting up routines and systems so life runs better
  • F.
    Pulling back from work and actually being off
• 6.
  If your life had a dashboard, which warning light would be flashing right now?

  • A.
    EVERYTHING: There is no real system. I am just keeping things moving however I can.
  • B.
    WORK: I cannot seem to shut it off.
  • C.
    BRAIN: Too many tabs open. Nothing is loading.
  • D.
    HOME: Things are piling up faster than I can deal with them.
  • E.
    ME: I keep putting myself at the bottom of the list.
  • F.
    US: My relationship needs more of me than it is getting.
• 7.
  It’s Sunday night. Which thought sounds the most like you?

  • A.
    How is the house already a disaster again?
  • B.
    I did everything for everyone else again.
  • C.
    I barely saw my spouse this week.
  • D.
    I need a better way to keep all of this together.
  • E.
    I should probably get a little more work done before Monday.
  • F.
    My brain is already exhausted thinking about tomorrow.
• 8.
  Your plans unexpectedly get canceled tonight. What’s your first thought?

  • A.
    I need this night to get my whole life together. Calendar, errands, appointments, all of it.
  • B.
    Finally. I can do something I actually want to do.
  • C.
    Perfect. I can catch up on some work.
  • D.
    Thank God. I just want silence and absolutely nothing to think about.
  • E.
    Good. I can finally tackle some of the stuff piling up around the house.
  • F.
    Maybe my honey and I can finally have some quality time together.
• 9.
  Which sentence are you the MOST tired of saying?

  • A.
    I need to get this house under control.
  • B.
    I need a vacation.
  • C.
    Work has been absolutely insane.
  • D.
    We really need more time together.
  • E.
    I swear I’m constantly playing catch up.
  • F.
    I am so overstimulated. I cannot handle one more thing.
• 10.
  If your sister,brother or best friend called you out right now, what would they probably say?

  • A.
    Do you ever stop working?
  • B.
    Your house is a disaster.
  • C.
    Do you even like each other anymore?
  • D.
    You can’t even think straight.
  • E.
    You never do anything for yourself.
  • F.
    You are all over the place.
• 11.
  BONUS: Be honest. If one thing could magically fix itself overnight, what are you picking?

  • A.
    I finally start putting myself first and don't feel bad about it!
  • B.
    We actually feel connected again.
  • C.
    My house finally feels under control. It's neat and organized.
  • D.
    The chatter in my head finally quiets down
  • E.
    My life stops feeling so all over the place.
  • F.
    Work stops taking over my life.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  You're "Ghosting" Yourself Boo!

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  How annoyed do you get when someone ghosts you?So why do you keep doing it to yourself?Seriously, when do YOU get a turn?You take care of work, family, appointments, errands, the house, all of it.And somehow, you keep getting pushed to the bottom of the list.Even when you make plans for yourself, your plans are usually the first to get canceled.Work runs late.Your spouse or partner needs something.A friend needs you.Someone in your family needs help.So you drop what you had planned for yourself and take care of them instead.Again.That is a big part of ghosting yourself.You keep treating your time as the easiest time to give away.And after a while, that starts showing up everywhere.Less patience.Less energy.Less focus.Less of you for the people you care about.Here is the good news.You do not need more hours in the day.You need some of your hours back.Start small.Put one hour on your calendar this week just for you.Pick one thing you can hand off, skip, or let wait.Do something you actually enjoy. Not something productive. Something for you.But that is only the start.If you are always the last person getting your time, something has to change.Let’s make some room for you again.
• 2.
  Hello, Workaholic!

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  Work gets the best of you, and everything else gets what’s left.You are the person people count on.You get things done.You handle what needs to be handled.And somewhere along the way, being busy became normal.The problem?Work does not stay at work.It follows you home.You are answering emails during dinner. Checking your phone while someone is talking to you. Thinking about tomorrow’s meeting when you are supposed to be spending time with the people you care about.You may be sitting right next to them.But you are not really there.And I am going to call this one out.If your spouse, significant other, kids, or friends are trying to spend time with you and you are half listening because you are checking email, answering a message, or thinking about work, that is rude.They deserve your attention too.Nobody wants to feel like they are competing with your phone, your inbox, or your job just to get a conversation with you.And after a while, people notice.They stop telling you things.They stop asking you to do things.They stop expecting you to really be there.That is when being a workaholic stops being just a work problem.It becomes a relationship problem too.And when work keeps getting your best energy, everybody else gets whatever is left.Your spouse or significant other.Your kids.Your friends.And eventually, you.And here is where it can really bite you.Working more does not always mean working better.When you are always on, you get tired. Your focus slips. You miss details. You forget things. You make mistakes you normally would not make.Eventually, the workaholic thing can start hurting the very thing you are working so hard to protect.Your work.The answer is not to stop being driven.It is to stop acting like being available every second is part of being successful.Start here:Pick a stopping time. When work is done, be done.Turn off work notifications. It can wait.Protect one block of time every week where work is completely off limits.Stop treating everything like it has to happen today.Look at what you can delegate, simplify, or hand off.You do not need to care less about your work.You just need to stop giving it everything you have.Save some of your best energy for the rest of your life too.
• 3.
  Roommates

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  Somewhere between work, schedules, the house, kids if you have them, and life, the relationship started feeling more like a partnership than a romance.You still care about each other.You are still on the same team.But lately, a lot of your conversations may sound like:“Did you pay that?”“What are we doing for dinner?”“What time do we need to leave?”“Who is handling that?”You are getting life done together.But somewhere along the way, the relationship itself started getting whatever time and energy were left.And sometimes?There is not much left.Here is the part people do not always want to admit:You can love someone and still neglect the relationship.It usually does not happen all at once.It happens little by little.Less talking.Less touching.Less laughing.Less sex.Less time together that is not about work, bills, errands, schedules, or what needs to happen next.Before you know it, you are great at running a life together...but not so great at actually being together.And if that goes on long enough, resentment can creep in.You can feel lonely while sitting right next to each other.You can start snapping over little things that are not really about the little thing.You can start feeling more like roommates than a couple.The answer is not to become different people.And you do not have to start with some huge romantic vacation.You need to start making room for the two of you again.Start here:Talk about something besides life logistics. Give yourselves 15 minutes where work, bills, kids, schedules, and the house are off limits.Put time together on the calendar. Coffee. Dinner. A walk. Sitting outside. It does not have to be fancy. It just needs to happen.Put the phones away. Sitting beside each other while both of you scroll is not quality time.Stop waiting until everything else is done. The house will never be completely finished. The inbox will refill. There will always be another errand.Take something off your plate. Delegate it. Outsource it. Ask for help. Sometimes creating more connection starts with creating more room in your week.You do not need to become a different couple.You need enough breathing room to remember that you are more than responsibilities, schedules, and a shared to do list.
• 4.
  Brain Drain

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  Your body is sitting still. Your brain absolutely is not.Your brain is always doing something.Remembering.Planning.Replaying.Worrying.Making lists.Thinking about what you forgot.Thinking about what you might forget.And sometimes worrying about things that have not even happened yet.You replay conversations and wonder if you said the wrong thing.You think about tomorrow before today is even over.You run through every possible outcome.You remember something you need to do while you are trying to relax.And somehow your brain can turn one small thought into seventeen more.That is exhausting.You may look perfectly calm on the outside while your brain is running a marathon.And when your head is this full, things start slipping.You cannot focus.You forget why you walked into a room.You read the same email three times.You start something and get distracted by something else.Simple decisions suddenly feel like work.And when someone asks you one more question, you may feel like your brain is going to short circuit.Here is the big problem:Your brain was never meant to be your calendar, your reminder app, your to do list, your worry box, and your storage unit all at the same time.You do not need to get better at remembering everything.You need to stop making your brain hold everything.Start here:Get it out of your head. Do a brain dump before bed or first thing in the morning. Write down everything you are trying to remember.Use one place for your life. One calendar. One task list. One place for reminders. Stop making yourself remember where you wrote everything.Catch yourself worrying about things that have not happened. Ask yourself, “Is this happening right now, or am I creating a problem that does not exist yet?”Cut down the noise. Turn off notifications. Close the extra tabs. Put the phone down. Your brain does not need ten things asking for attention at once.Hand some things off. If someone else can remember it, schedule it, order it, handle it, or take care of it, let them.You do not need to think harder.You need fewer things to think about.Because when some of that mental chatter finally quiets down, you have more focus, more patience, more energy, and a whole lot more room to actually enjoy your life.
• 5.
  Home Base Chaos

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  Your house is not just messy. It is making everything feel harder.Home is supposed to be the place where you walk in and exhale.But when every room reminds you of something you need to do?Not so relaxing.The laundry.The dishes.The packages by the door.The pile on the counter.The closet, you do not even want to open.The stuff you keep moving from one place to another because you do not know where to put it.And somehow there is always one more thing.You may even sit down to relax and immediately notice five things that need your attention.So instead of resting, your brain starts:“I need to put that away.”“I still need to do the laundry.”“I have to deal with that pile.”“Where did we put that thing?”“Why does this house get messy again so fast?”Your home starts feeling like another job.And here is something important:This does not mean you are lazy.It does not mean you are bad at keeping a house.A lot of the time, it simply means your life is fuller than the systems in your home can handle.Work happens.Kids happen.Appointments happen.Errands happen.Life happens.And the house gets whatever time and energy are left.But when your home stays overloaded long enough, it starts costing you more than a messy room.You waste time looking for things.You buy things you already own because you cannot find them.Getting out the door takes longer.Cleaning feels harder because there is stuff everywhere.You avoid having people over.And your house never really gives you that feeling of being done.That gets old.Start here:Pick the space that annoys you the most. Do not try to fix the whole house today.Get rid of some stuff. If you are constantly moving, storing, cleaning, and managing things you do not even use, you have too much to manage.Give everyday things a home. If you use it all the time, it should have an easy place to go.Create a simple reset. Ten minutes at night can keep tomorrow from starting in yesterday’s mess.Stop trying to maintain the entire house by yourself. Get the family involved. Delegate. Outsource. Ask for help.Your goal is not a picture perfect house.Your goal is to walk into your home and feel your shoulders drop instead of immediately seeing another to do list.Your home should make your life easier.Not give you more work to do.
• 6.
  System Overload

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  It’s not one thing. It’s ALL the things.You probably had a hard time picking answers in this quiz.Because honestly?Everything feels a little out of control.Work is a lot.The house is a lot.Your schedule is a lot.Your relationship may need more attention.You are not getting enough time for yourself.And your brain is trying to keep track of all of it.So most days, you are not really running your life.You are reacting to it.What is urgent?Who needs something?What did you forget?What has to happen today?What fire needs to be put out next?And somehow, you keep getting through it.But barely keeping everything from falling apart is not the same thing as having a system that works.Here is the part you need to hear.You cannot fix total overload by just trying harder.You cannot planner your way out of doing too much.You cannot remember everything.You cannot be available to everyone.And you cannot keep being the person holding every piece of your life together forever.Because eventually?Something gets dropped.The appointment.The deadline.The return.The laundry.The dinner.The client follow up.The date night.Your own needs.Something.That does not mean you are failing.It means the way everything is being managed is not working anymore.And no, the answer is not buying another cute planner. 😂You need fewer things depending on you to keep them moving.Start here:Get everything out of your head. Write down everything you are trying to manage. Work, home, errands, appointments, people, projects, all of it.Ask what actually needs YOU. Some things do. A lot of things probably do not.Pick one home base for your life. One calendar. One task list. One place to see what is happening.Create systems for things that keep repeating. Groceries. Laundry. Bills. Meals. Errands. Scheduling. Stop reinventing the wheel every week.Get some help. Delegate it. Automate it. Outsource it. Drop it. You are not supposed to personally carry every moving piece.You do not need to get better at juggling.You need fewer things in the air.Because the goal is not to become perfectly organized.The goal is to build a life that does not require you to hold everything together every minute of every day.When the system works, you finally get to stop being the system.