The Self-Abandonment Audit
The four ways high-achieving women leave themselves — and what it's costing you.
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Quiz Questions
1.
I keep adding more when it is already good enough.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
2.
I edit myself so that what I say is easier for other people to hear.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
3.
I know what I need, and then I talk myself out of it.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Always
D.
Often
4.
I agree to things I don't really want to do, because saying no feels harder.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Always
D.
Often
5.
I say I'm fine when I'm not.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
6.
I push myself beyond what is necessary, because doing less feels like letting someone down.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
7.
I see what needs doing, and that makes it mine.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
8.
I keep going when I know I should stop.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
9.
There are things I want that I've never said out loud.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
10.
I find myself managing other people's feelings as though they're mine to fix.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
11.
I reach a goal and I'm already on to the next one.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
12.
I put off the thing I know would help me.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
13.
I would rather do it myself than ask and be let down.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
14.
I know everyone else's position better than my own.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
15.
I can see exactly what I am doing, and I do it anyway
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
16.
Part of me worries that if people really knew me, they would find something lacking.
A.
Never
B.
Sometimes
C.
Often
D.
Always
17.
Last one. If you had to choose only one — which is most true of you?
A.
I know what I need, and I don't listen.
B.
I carry more than is mine to carry.
C.
I don't say what I really think or want.
D.
I feel like I still have to earn my place.
Quiz Outcomes
1.
The Override
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"Let me just finish this first."You know what you need. Often precisely, and often early. And then you go past it...
2.
The Load
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"I can't just leave it."You're often the one who sees what needs to happen — and somehow, before anyone has asked, you have already started carrying it...
3.
The Unsaid
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"Let me just soften that."You know what you think, and what you want to say. Somewhere between knowing it and saying it, you edit...
4.
The Earning
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"I just have to make it undeniable."Underneath it is a quiet piece of arithmetic: if I do enough, get it right enough — then I'll be enough...
