Which Off Campus Attachment Style Are You?

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Quiz Questions

1.
When you and your partner have an argument, what is your usual approach?
- A.
  You need space to think, and you withdraw until you feel ready to reconnect.
- B.
  You talk it through calmly, listen, and look for a solution together.
- C.
  You alternate between apologizing profusely and pushing them away.
- D.
  You worry they might leave and keep reaching out for reassurance.
2.
After a great first date, how do you usually follow up?
- A.
  Keep things casual, maybe wait a day or two before messaging.
- B.
  Overthink every word you sent and sometimes send mixed or confusing follow-ups.
- C.
  Send a sincere message thanking them and wait to see how things unfold.
- D.
  Text a lot, re-read their messages, and feel nervous until they reply.
3.
How do you feel about long term commitment?
- A.
  You value your freedom and prefer to avoid labels unless it feels right.
- B.
  You want it, but you are scared it will go wrong so you are inconsistent about it.
- C.
  You want commitment but fear losing yourself or being abandoned.
- D.
  You feel excited and practical, you enjoy planning a future together.
4.
Your friends would most likely describe you as:
- A.
  Intense, deeply caring, and emotionally expressive.
- B.
  Passionate but unpredictable, sometimes guarded.
- C.
  Independent, private, and a little hard to read.
- D.
  Steady, supportive, and easy to rely on.
5.
If someone flirts with you while you are in a relationship, how do you react?
- A.
  You set boundaries and talk with your partner if anything feels off.
- B.
  You panic and seek reassurance from your partner right away.
- C.
  You brush it off and keep emotional distance from that person.
- D.
  You feel tempted but you quickly pull away, leaving your partner confused.
6.
In stressful times, what do you usually do?
- A.
  Become more clingy and anxious that people will leave you when you need them.
- B.
  Swing between wanting help and shutting down, feeling unsure how to ask.
- C.
  Reach out to your partner or friends for support and collaboration.
- D.
  Tackle the problem on your own and keep your feelings private.
7.
If you sense a relationship is coming to an end, how do you usually respond?
- A.
  You send mixed signals, sometimes chasing and sometimes pushing away.
- B.
  You talk openly about it and try to work through the issues if possible.
- C.
  You replay every moment and try to convince them to stay.
- D.
  You withdraw or end things to protect yourself from getting hurt.

Quiz Outcomes

1.
Secure (Hannah and Garrett)
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You’re Hannah and Garrett!“I really like you, I’m going to tell you, and we’re going to figure this out together.”Like Hannah and Garrett, you’re comfortable with closeness without completely losing yourself in the relationship. You can let someone in, communicate what you need, and trust that a little conflict or uncertainty doesn’t automatically mean the relationship is falling apart.You probably value:Honest communicationEmotional closenessTrust and consistencyHaving your own life and sharing one with your personActually talking things out instead of playing gamesAnd just like Garrett learns that being there for someone means more than simply showing up, you understand that a healthy relationship takes vulnerability, communication, and choosing each other, even when things aren't perfect.Of course, secure doesn't mean you never get jealous, anxious, annoyed, or hurt. It means you can experience those feelings without letting them run the whole relationship.You're the “we're on the same team” person. 💙This quiz is for fun and reflection—not a clinical assessment or diagnosis.Want to learn more about yourself in relationships?Check out www.simplelovecounseling.com
2.
Anxious (Allie)
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You're Allie Hayes.Big feelings, big heart.“Okay but can we PLEASE talk about what just happened?”You care deeply about your relationships, and when you really love someone, you’re all in. But when things feel uncertain, your brain might start filling in the blanks:Are they upset with me? Did I do something? Are we okay? Why haven't they texted back?!Like Allie, you may crave closeness and reassurance when you're feeling disconnected. You probably notice little shifts in your partner's mood or behavior really quickly which can be a strength, but can also send your brain into overdrive when you don't know what's going on.You might:Need reassurance when things feel uncertainOverthink changes in your partner's behaviorWant to talk things out right nowFeel especially sensitive to rejection or distanceSometimes need a little extra confirmation that you're still okay as a coupleThe growth edge isn't becoming someone who “doesn't care.” It's learning that you can tolerate a little uncertainty without immediately assuming something is wrong and that you don't have to chase reassurance every time your nervous system gets activated.You love with your whole heart. Now you're learning that you can feel secure without needing constant proof that you're loved. 💛This quiz is for fun and reflection—not a clinical assessment or diagnosis.Want to learn more about yourself in relationships?Check out www.simplelovecounseling.com
3.
Avoidant (John Logan)
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You're John Logan.“I have feelings. I just don't need to talk about them.”You might really value relationships and care deeply about your person, but when things start feeling too vulnerable, too intense, or too dependent, your instinct may be to create a little distance.You might:Need plenty of independence in a relationshipFeel uncomfortable with too much emotional intensityPull back when conflict or vulnerability gets overwhelmingHave a hard time asking for what you needFeel more comfortable showing love through actions than wordsNeed time to process before you're ready to open upThe growth edge isn't becoming more dependent on your partner. It's learning that letting someone support you doesn't mean losing your independence. You can need someone and still be your own person.And sometimes the person saying “I'm fine” the loudest is the one who could really use someone to sit beside them and say, “You don't have to handle everything alone.” 🩶This quiz is for fun and reflection—not a clinical assessment or diagnosis.Want to learn more about yourself in relationships?Check out www.simplelovecounseling.com
4.
Fearful-Avoidant (Dean)
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You're Dean Di Laurentis.“I want you close… but also, please don't get too close.”You crave connection, but when things start feeling real, vulnerability can feel a little scary. Part of you wants to be deeply known and loved, while another part is thinking, “Okay, this is getting way too close for comfort.”Like Dean, you might use humor, independence, flirting, or keeping things light to protect yourself from getting hurt. You can be incredibly caring and connected one minute, then suddenly feel the urge to pull back when the relationship starts asking you to be vulnerable.You might:Really want closeness—but get uncomfortable when you actually have itWorry about getting hurt, rejected, or losing your independenceGo back and forth between pursuing connection and pulling awayHave a hard time trusting that someone will stick around when they see the real youUse humor, distraction, or distance when things get emotionally intenseWant reassurance while simultaneously resisting itThe growth edge isn't choosing between “I need someone” and “I need nobody.” It's learning that you can have closeness without losing yourself and vulnerability doesn't automatically mean getting hurt.You're just learning that being known can actually be safe. 💔➡️❤️This quiz is for fun and reflection—not a clinical assessment or diagnosis.Want to learn more about yourself in relationships?Check out www.simplelovecounseling.com

Which Off Campus Attachment Style Are You?

Answer a few fun, character-inspired scenarios to find which Off Campus attachment style matches your relationship vibe. Are you steady like Hannah and Garrett or complicated like Dean?

Quiz Questions

Quiz Outcomes