Dr. Nikki LeToya White The Four Levels of Healing

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  When you think about your life right now, what feels most true?

  • A.
    Student: I know something’s off, but I couldn’t tell you exactly what. I’m tired and stuck.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I can see my patterns now. What I’m sitting with is the hurt underneath them.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I understand why I do what I do. Now I’m practicing doing it differently.
  • D.
    Master: I’ve made real changes. These days I’m protecting them.
• 2.
  After a hard day, what usually happens with food?

  • A.
    Student: I end up in the pantry or the drive-thru without really deciding to.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I notice when I’m about to eat my feelings, and sometimes I can stop and ask what I’m feeling.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I have a plan for hard days, and I use it more often than not.
  • D.
    Master: Emotional eating is rare now. When it shows up, I catch it early and don’t spiral.
• 3.
  Someone asks you for a favor you don’t have the time or energy for.

  • A.
    Student: I say yes before I even think. Then I resent it.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I still say yes, but I’m noticing the resentment and asking why I keep doing this.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I pause and check in with myself. I say no more often, even if my voice shakes.
  • D.
    Master: I answer honestly. If guilt shows up afterward, I let it pass without changing my answer.
• 4.
  Think about your relationships that feel one-sided.

  • A.
    Student: Most of my close relationships are like this. I thought that’s just how love works.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I see it clearly now, and I’m grieving it. I’m stepping back from some of them.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I've set boundaries, and I’m learning who respects them.
  • D.
    Master: I’ve let go of what needed to go, and I spot red flags early in new relationships.
• 5.
  How do the promises you make to yourself usually go?

  • A.
    Student: I break them so often I’ve stopped making them.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I want to keep them, but old pain keeps getting in the way.
  • C.
    Journeryman: I keep small ones every day. My routines are how I prove I’ll show up for me.
  • D.
    Master: I mostly keep them, and when I slip, I get back up without the shame spiral.
• 6.
  When you think about how you were cared for growing up:

  • A.
    Student: I don’t think about it much. Other people had it worse.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I’m starting to see how being overlooked shaped me, and it’s stirring a lot up.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I’ve done work on it, and now I’m building the life I didn’t get back then.
  • D.
    Master: I can talk about it calmly. It’s part of my story. It doesn’t make my decisions anymore.
• 7.
  What do your mornings and evenings look like?

  • A.
    Student: No real routine. I react to whatever or whoever needs me first.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I'm trying to slow down, but I’m still mostly in survival mode.
  • C.
    Jounrneyman: I have rituals I keep most days, and I feel the difference when I skip them.
  • D.
    Master: My routines are steady, and I adjust them when life changes instead of dropping them.
• 8.
  Do you have a vision for your healing?

  • A.
    Student: Not really. I just want to feel better.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I have a sense of what I want, but I’m still clearing out what’s in the way.
  • C.
    Jounrenyman: I have a plan, and I’m building the habits that support it.
  • D.
    Master: I’ve had one for a while. I revisit it and update it as I grow.
• 9.
  When big feelings hit, like anxiety or fear of being left:

  • A.
    Student: I go straight to fixing, pleasing, eating, or shutting down.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I’m learning to name what I feel and let myself feel it before I react.
  • C.
    Jounrenyman: I have tools I reach for, and most of the time they help.
  • D.
    Master: I can feel it, face it, and come back to myself in hours instead of days.
• 10.
  How is trust right now, in yourself, in God, and in other people?

  • A.
    Student: I don’t really trust myself, and trusting others hasn’t gone well.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I’m rebuilding it slowly and letting go of people who kept breaking it.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I trust myself more because I’ve been showing up for myself.
  • D.
    Master: I trust myself, and I have people I can lean on in healthy ways.
• 11.
  Who supports you?

  • A.
    Student: I’m the one everyone leans on. Nobody is really holding me.
  • B.
    Apprentice: I'm starting to see I need support, but asking still feels uncomfortable.
  • C.
    Journeyman: I have one or two safe people, and I’m getting better at asking.
  • D.
    Master: I have a real support team (friends, community, professionals), and I use it.
• 12.
  What scares you most right now?

  • A.
    Student: That nothing will ever change.
  • B.
    Apprentice: Feeling everything I’ve spent years avoiding.
  • C.
    Journeyman: Not being able to keep this up.
  • D.
    Master: Sliding back into old habits without noticing.

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  What Level Are You On?

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  Got mostly 1s? You're a Student: The AwakeningYou’re tired of carrying everyone, and you can’t quite name why it feels so heavy. You’ve been surviving for so long that survival started to feel like your personality. Somewhere along the way, you learned your needs come second.What you need now is honest information. A Life Audit shows you where your time, energy, food, and love are actually going. The 7 Laws of Recovery help you build a vision and a plan, and start forgiving, committing, and moving on from people-pleasing and one-sided relationships.Try this week: Write down every yes you said. Next to each one, write “chose it” or “felt like I had to.”You don’t have to fix anything today. You just have to stop looking away from yourself.To jumpstart a good resource to read, Dr. Nikki LeToya White free ebook, Untangled, it is available for Free download on Substack at guttygirlletters.substack.com/p/my-books-and-resourcesGot Mostly 2's? You're an Apprentice: The ReleaseYou can see your patterns clearly now, and it hurts more than you expected. Awareness came first. Grief comes next. This is where old wounds from being overlooked and left start talking, and the pull back toward what’s familiar gets loud.What you need now is a way to calm your body and let go. Favor Thoughts help you replace faulty codependent thinking. Feel, Face, Release, Heal™ gives you a way to process old pain instead of eating it or pleasing it away. This is where you start releasing one-sided relationships and rebuilding trust in yourself, in God, and in others.Try this week: When a hard feeling shows up, set a timer for five minutes and let yourself feel it without fixing anything.Letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t love them. It means you’re finally loving you too.For more tools and resources, become a paid member at Gutty Girl Letters on Substack to get access to Feel/Face/Release/Heal Methods. Got Mostly 3's? You’re a Journeyman: The RebuildYou’ve done the inner work, and now your daily life needs to match it. Knowing you deserve better isn’t enough on its own. Your days have to show it, and your voice has to get stronger, because fawning doesn’t disappear just because you understand it.What you need now is structure: rituals, routines, The Daily Five™, and boundaries you actually say out loud. This is where “no” becomes a full sentence.Try this week: Choose one daily practice and keep it for seven days. A glass of water before coffee counts.Every promise you keep to yourself is a vote for “I matter too.”If you tend to not know what you want in life due to people-pleasing, a good resource is Dr. Nikki LeToya White's Gutty Girl Life Audit Workshop. You can access it at spicedlifeconversation.com. Hit the Explore the media library tab, then the Life Audit link.Got Mostly 4's You’re a Master: The KeeperYour life looks different now, and you want it to stay that way. Old patterns don’t announce themselves when they come back. They sneak in through a busy season, a new relationship, or a family crisis.What you need now is to revisit your vision and plan for long-term recovery, build a wellness team and community around you, and track your progress so you notice early if people-pleasing, codependent thinking, or self-abandonment start creeping back.Try this week: Write down three early warning signs that tell you you’re slipping. Share them with one safe person.You became the woman who chooses herself. Now you get to keep choosing her.If you don't have anyone to talk to about your healing, you can always email me; I'm here. spicedlifeconversation@yahoo.comNote: “When you enter your email to see your results. You’ll also get my letters from Spiced Life Conversation on Substack. Unsubscribe anytime.”