Assertiveness Quiz

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Be honest! There are no right or wrong answers! Answer with what you would do, NOT what you think (or wished) you would do!  No one is all one type of personality. Your results will indicate the most dominate for you. 

Quiz Questions

• 1.
  A teacher says something you feel is rude to you in front of your peers. 

  • A.
    Do nothing. You shouldn't question teachers

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    Tell the teacher exactly what I think. Even though she\he is a teacher they have no right to talk to me that way. If they are rude to me then I can be rude back! 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    After class share my concerns with my teacher, but I will do so in a respectful and calm manner.

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
• 2.
  I avoid dealing with difficult situations involving confrontation.

  • A.
    I like conflict! It makes me feel good to tell people exactly what I think of them.

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • B.
    Although I might not always like it, conflict is an important part of a relationship. Sometimes people can get closer after working through a disagreement. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • C.
    I avoid conflict. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
• 3.
  Talking to people in positions of authority makes me feel nervous, self-conscious, or unsure of myself.

  • A.
    True

    (Correlates to: )
  • B.
    I don't have any issues talking to anyone who is in an authority position. They are just people. 

    (Correlates to: )
  • C.
    People in authority positions always think they are better than other people. I have no issues telling them what I think. 

    (Correlates to: )
• 4.
  You are in line at a store when someone cuts in front of you. What do you do?

  • A.
    Nothing. Who cares. Life is too short to worry about such small things. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    That behaviour makes me so mad! I tell them exactly what I think and tell them to get in the back of the line.  You can't be nice to people who are such jerks. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    Respectfully point out to them that they need to go to the back of the line. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
• 5.
  During conversation with friends how much do you tend to engage in the conversation?

  • A.
    I talk about 50% of the time.

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    I talk more than my friends.

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    I am more of a listener. My friends tend to dominate the conversations. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
• 6.
  Which describes the tone of your voice? 

  • A.
    soft

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    loud

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    average not too soft, but no loud

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
• 7.
  How would you describe you body language during confrontation? 

  • A.
    Relaxed with an open stance

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Arms crossed. I will often get closer to people to make my point heard. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    Withdrawn, slouching, and standing further from the person. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
• 8.
  How do you feel about being part of a new group?

  • A.
    I like to fully engage groups and be an effective team member.

    (Correlates to: )
  • B.
    I like to watch new groups from the sidelines and only engage when I need to.

    (Correlates to: )
  • C.
    I like to go right into a new group and take the lead. 

    (Correlates to: )
• 9.
  Your friend just said something you find offensive

  • A.
    Tell him/her I disagree and why.  I will discuss the topic as long as they are willing to be respectful. I will take the time to listen to their side and I equally share my thoughts. If they are not able to discuss the topic appropriately I will walk away. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Tell him/her why I disagree. Since they are being offensive it is important I convince them they are wrong and get them to understand my point of view. It is ok if the argument gets heated because the topic is important. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    I just stay quiet. There is no use in trying to change their mind. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
• 10.
  When you are walking down the street you come across a boy who is being beat up by a group of much older boys. What do you do?

  • A.
    Nothing. It is not my business. Even if I wanted to help, I have no idea what I could do to stop the situation. 

    (Correlates to: )
  • B.
    Start yelling and screaming at the boys who are bullying. If you get mad enough you might even physically attack the boys who are the bullies. 

    (Correlates to: )
  • C.
     Let the boys know you are calling the cops, so they best leave the kid alone. You are able to stay calm, but you are firm in that what they are doing is not and you will do what you can to stop it. 

    (Correlates to: )
• 11.
  A classmate, whom you don't like, says something rude to you that is not true. How do you react?

  • A.
    Just walk away. You feel powerless to say anything.

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    Laugh and then walk away with your head held high. What this person says does not matter. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • C.
    Say something rude back. They have no right to be rude to you and you will teach them not to do it again. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
• 12.
  A peer who you are not attracted to sends you a text asking you on a date. 

  • A.
    Respond that you are flattered that they asked, but you just don't see them that way. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Don't respond. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • C.
    You tell your friends about it. Together you all decide how to respond in an entertaining way. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
• 13.
  During class you are discussing a topic you are quite interested in. How often do you participate.

  • A.
    Not at all. I usually stay quiet during classroom discussions.

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    I talk more than any other student in the class. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    I share my thoughts several time throughout the class. I not only enjoy sharing my thoughts, but also like listening to what others have to say. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
• 14.
  You are in line waiting to buy something that will sell out quickly. Many people are pushing their way to the front of the line. It is chaos. How do you react?

  • A.
    I wait patiently. If people push in front of me there is nothing I can do. I refuse to be like them! Nothing material is worth me being part of the chaos. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    I don't cut in front of anyone, but I make sure that I don't lose my place either. If I need to I will say something to anyone who tries to push their way in front of me.

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • C.
    This makes you happy. It allows you the chance to get in front of other people. This means you are more than likely going to be able to buy that item you have been wanting so bad. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
• 15.
  You are struggling to understand how to complete a large project for school. It is due two days. The teacher is quite strict and not very approachable. 

  • A.
    Avoid asking the teacher for help. Try to get help by searching online. 

    (Correlates to: )
  • B.
    Send the teacher an email saying that the assignment makes no sense. Tell them them because it is so confusing you deserve an extension. 

    (Correlates to: )
  • C.
    Send the teacher an email asking him/her specific questions you have about the essay. Work hard to get it completed on time. 

    (Correlates to: )
• 16.
  You friends want you to try something new, but you don't want to. How do you react?

  • A.
    Say no. If they keep insisting you just ignore them and walk away. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Tell them no. If they keep insisting you get mad at them and tell them off. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    You don't want to upset your friends, so you go along. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
• 17.
  If you are in the middle of homework, and a friend rings you for a chat, what do you do?

  • A.
    Tell them you are busy and you will call them later. 

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Even though you have a lot to do you talk to them anyways. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • C.
    Tell them you are busy and hang up. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
• 18.
  If someone bumps into you in the hallway, and you both drop your books, what do you do?

  • A.
    Ask them to be more careful in the future. Then help them pick up their books.

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Say sorry, quickly pick up your books, and walk away. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • C.
    Make it  very clear to them that they better watch where they going. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
• 19.
  A peer pays you a compliment. How do you react? 

  • A.
    You feel a little awkward, so you say something to disagree with the compliment. For example, if they say they like your shirt you reply "This old shirt! Do you really think so?"

    (Correlates to: Passive)
  • B.
    Smile and say "thank you!"

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • C.
    Say very little and wander what it is they want from you. 

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
• 20.
  A friend begs you to borrow £10. They know that you have £20 on you. You really don't want to lend them the money. Last time you lent them £5 they didn't pay you back. 

  • A.
    Tell them that you don't feel it is a good idea and you are sorry but the answer is no. If they keep begging you respond by calmly saying "please stop asking! If you continue I am walking away!"

    (Correlates to: Assertive Personaility)
  • B.
    Remind them that they are a jerk for not paying you back the last time. Let them know that you are offended they would even ask you!

    (Correlates to: Aggressive Personality)
  • C.
    They are your friend. They wouldn't ask if they didn't need it. Plus, you don't want to upset them. You lend them the money. 

    (Correlates to: Passive)

Quiz Outcomes

• 1.
  Passive

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  Passive people tend to often be complaint with the wishes of others in a manner that undermines their own needs. They are hesitant to speak up for themselves or others.
• 2.
  Aggressive Personality

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  You lean towards having an aggressive personality. Aggress fail to consider the views or feelings of other individuals. Aggressive responses encourage the other person to respond in a non-assertive way, either aggressively or passively.
• 3.
  Assertive Personaility

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  Assertive people are able stand up for your personal rights and the rights of others - expressing thoughts, feelings and beliefs in direct, honest and appropriate ways.