What should you focus on in therapy?
Therapy is a huge word and can seem daunting, but it’s easier when you know what you’re getting yourself into. Take our quiz to pinpoint the areas where you could use a little clarity and healing.
Quiz Questions
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1.What does your ideal Friday night look like?
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A.I usually volunteer for any school functions like bake sales or bottle drives. I just love to help out!(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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B.A night out with my friends, red carpet VIP treatment for me and my besties.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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C.A quiet night in, either reading a great book, or a board game night with some close friends.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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D.Take it to the streets! Ready to participate in some anarchy! Right after I swing by my friend's rally and support their cause.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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2.How would your best friends describe you?
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A.A bit of a rebel without a clue. Always up for taking down the patriarchy, you like to test limits and challenge the status quo. A fierce ally and loyal friend, you're the one people want in their corner when the tough gets rough.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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B.A complete rockstar renaissance person. Always good at everything I try, and super into cool new stuff, and always game to go out and do cool stuff. Life just seems easy for you, and you're the best guy to have at a party.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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C.Shy, a bit introverted, and adorably geeky. A little hard to get to know, but once you open up, it can be hard to shut you up. You get super excited about the things you're passionate about and can be a bit of a walking encyclopedia when you get going about your favorite things.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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D.Warm, loving, and endlessly generous. Always the first to volunteer, you live to help others, and honestly have never met a bake sale you couldn't dominate.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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3.What do you consider to be your best personality traits?
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A.Loyal, rebellious, skeptical.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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B.Helpful, generous, caring.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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C.Rational, intelligent, charmingly whimsical.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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D.Fun, friendly, outgoing.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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4.What's your experience been with therapy?
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A.I’ve heard of therapy, lots of my friends go, and it sounds like it could be helpful, but I've never seen a therapist myself.(Correlates to: )
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B.I've tried therapy, but I've never found a therapist or schedule that really clicks with me or my life.(Correlates to: )
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C.I have a therapist, but I feel like we spend too much time talking about my feelings. I want tools I can use in between sessions.(Correlates to: )
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D.Isn't therapy for people with trauma? I don't think I have any trauma...(Correlates to: )
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5.How would you describe your closest relationships?
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A.I have a bunch of friends that I like to party with, but when I think about it, I kind of just hangout with them because it's easy.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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B.I have a few close friends that have earned my trust and I would fight wolves for them. Grrrr…(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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C.I love all my people! I want to hug them and help them and show them love all the time!(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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D.Most of my best friends can be found on my bookshelves. But when I can't hangout with Bilbo Baggins and Harry Potter, I like to roll around dodecahedrons with a group of like-minded adventurers. #DungeonsAndDragons(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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6.Let's crack open your highschool yearbook - you were voted Most Likely To?
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A.Become One With The Force(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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B.Take down the patriarchy!(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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C.Head the PTA!(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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D.Become a Rockstar!(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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7.Which TV personality is so you?
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A.Kitty Forman from That 70’s Show. Always ready with brownies for the bake sale, and eager to help a friend in need, Kitty sometimes struggles to feel seen and appreciated by her husband, the ever-cranky Rhett.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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B.Mike Ross from Suits. You’re a super gifted person with a lot to offer, but you tend to just go along with what’s easy instead of working hard to find the right path for yourself.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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C.Amy Farrah Fowler-Cooper from Big Bang Theory. Cerebral almost to a fault, you have your fun and whimsical side that you only let those closest to you see. Tiara, anyone?(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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D.Buffy Summers from Buffy the Vampire Slayer. Always ready to kick some serious butt and challenge bad fashion, your #1 priority is protecting and supporting your friends as they help you face the next Big Bad Ugly.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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8.What do you struggle with most when you think about your friendships?
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A.I sometimes feel unappreciated, which is crazy, because I do so much for others.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Worth)
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B.I really have a hard time opening up and trusting others. But then, I also feel like I’m not always open with myself.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Trust)
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C.I’m not sure anyone actually sees the real me.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Self-Awareness)
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D.I sometimes have a hard time letting my heart lead the way in my friendships. I’m always so caught up in my head.(Correlates to: You should focus on... Balance)
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9.How likely are you to seek out a therapist?
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A.I mean, if the right one came along, I’m sure that I’d give it a shot.(Correlates to: )
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B.It would be so much easier if I could just download some worksheets and work through it alone, maybe checking in with someone every once in a while.(Correlates to: )
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C.I’ve already got a therapist, thanks.(Correlates to: )
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D.No way. No how. I’m good. My life isn’t so uncomfortable that I need help – yet.(Correlates to: )
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Quiz Outcomes
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1.You should focus on... TrustYou’re naturally skeptical and like to challenge establishments and systems, but your trust is unwavering — once it’s been earned.Always on the search for a cause to believe in and someone to support in allyship, you can’t help but test the foundations to make sure they’re safe and solid.And your friends can expect the same! You’re the most loyal supporter, but also one who will challenge those around you to be the best versions of themselves.No wonder you have a reputation for being a bit of a rebel.You’re strong enough to handle the tough things that life can throw at you, and sometimes it can feel like you’re left to deal with it all along.It’s easy to believe you’re the only person that you can really trust.But when sacrifice is required and your friends need you, you make the Tough Choice, ignoring your vulnerable moments in favor of muscling through, and in doing so you lose trust in yourself.When you always throw yourself under the ol’ bus, you smother your intuition, and can end up heart blind and headstrong.Trust is at the core of your gooey centered cookie, but you’ve got to get through that crunchy oatmeal exterior to really appreciate the safe space that you need to feel secure in life.How do you know if Trust is really what you should focus on in therapy?Let’s play “Tick the boxes!” Do you…✅ Have a difficult time making decisions✅ Not validate your own experience/ reality✅ Value external opinions over your own✅ Frequently second guess yourself✅ Shy away from speaking up for yourself and your needs✅ Struggle to recognize your worth✅ Dwell on your mistakes✅ Undermine or dismiss your previous success✅ Often feel regret✅ Try to control everything and everyone✅ Compare yourself to others✅ Engage in critical self-talk✅ Minimize your responsibility/choice✅ Silence your intuition✅ Would rather have others make decisions for you✅ Have a difficult time committing✅ Constantly break promises that you made to yourself...if you check even 3 of these boxes, then chances are you doubt yourself enough that it’s holding you back, and it might even be seriously damaging your relationships.“He who does not trust enough will not be trusted.” - Lao TzuGet To Know YourselfFoundations are the building blocks of fun!Therapy is an often misunderstood practice, and while it does involve talking about feelings, it’s more about taking a closer look inside yourself to see what really makes you tick.Don’t you want to learn more about why you do the things that you do?And how to address some of the ways you unknowingly sabotage yourself?Other than learning to Trust, let’s take a look at some of the foundations of therapy.1. Balance – The key to a happy life isn’t abundance and neverending chill days, it’s all about balance.The grind of day-to-day life can become a repetitive, life-sucking rut if you aren’t careful to create healthy boundaries between work, play, and the everyday.With the help of a therapist, you can delve deep into where your imbalances come in life, and how to make changes to restore a much needed life balance.Check out our online workshop on Balance and Your To-Do List2. Self-awareness – It’s easy to wander through life without much direction, reacting to the world instead of purposely creating a life. This can lead to a feeling of not being seen or heard, and always feeling like you just fit in, instead of actually belonging. When you don’t know yourself very well, it can be hard to find the right friends or job to fulfill you and challenge you into new growth. Self-Awareness is a core focus of any therapeutic journey. Check out our Online Self-Awareness Workshop to learn more about yourself, and how you can align your life with who you truly are. 3. Self-Worth – It can be very difficult to establish and maintain boundaries that are meant to protect your peace when you’re constantly putting others before yourself. It isn’t bad to want to help others, but when your selflessness becomes a complete loss of self, it’s time to do some work on your own core values and boundaries.Learn how to show up as an advocate for yourself so you can give your loved ones empowered, resounding ‘yes’s and firm, healthy ‘no’s, without feeling guilty or selfish.Join our Boundary Badass Challenge on Instagram to build up your self-worth and finally love yourself as much as you love everyone else.The Truth About Therapy...Hey there, I’m Karen Watson, Licensed Trauma Therapist and Counselor, as well as life coach and personal yoga guru. It’s my mission to bring therapy to everyone, with remote access and online community support. Gone are the days when you lay on a couch and talk about your feelings with a nosey stranger.Modern therapy is designed to create self-awareness so you can better understand yourself, and to give you therapy tools so you can better manage some of the areas in your life where you’ve struggled in the past.I’ve been a guest on many podcasts, including “Beyond the Chaise,” and “You Owe It To You,” and you can find my new book, “The Beauty of Boundaries,” wherever books are sold.Build Your CommunityHere are some resources to help you on your therapeutic journey within yourself.1. Love a good life-hack? Check out my Youtube Channel, Beautiful Boundaries. Every week I share an actionable therapy tool to help you with anything from handling anxiety to creating safe space for difficult conversations, and everything in between.2. Love a good motivational poster? Follow me on Instagram where I share uplifting messages and mindful meditations. 3. Don’t know where to begin but know that therapy is the right path for you? Book a call with me and we’ll discuss what kind of therapy we should focus on to help you find balance and ease in your life. Touch base and get groundedHead on over to your inbox to grab the free therapy tool I’ve already sent you to help you face your next challenge.Over the next few days, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help you achieve self-awareness and the growth that you’re more than ready for! “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”— Carl Rogers
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2.You should focus on... BalanceEver watchful, with a keen eye for detail, you’re a highly cerebral person who likes to analyze data, make observations, and sometimes share your conclusion. But sometimes your superbrain overpowers your emotional side, and you pay the price in imbalance.Passion can get lost in scheduling, excitement left off the to-do list, and self-care trampled under the heels of those who need more than you can give.Somewhere, balance gets lost and life becomes one boring day after another, filled with busyness and monotony, and somehow you’re left feeling like you’ve let someone down, somehow.That someone is you.Your computer brain works like a machine, but your heart brain was left to run out of gas long ago.In staying on top of the details, and taking care of business as usual, you forgot to pay attention to the more emotional needs of your soul. How do you know if you need help finding balance?Let’s see how many times you nod your head as you read this list…✅ Do you feel overwhelmed by your to-do list?✅ Are you exhausted at the end of the day, even though you don’t feel like you accomplished anything?✅ Do you feel like you’re always letting someone down to get things done?✅ Do you feel guilty every time you try to make time for yourself?✅ Are you sure there’s more to life than this, but you just can’t figure it out?✅ Sound like you’re on the tightrope of life, and it’s getting pretty shaky!“Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony.”– Thomas MertonGet To Know YourselfFoundations are the building blocks of fun!Therapy is an often misunderstood practice, and while it does involve talking about feelings, it’s more about taking a closer look inside yourself to see what really makes you tick.Don’t you want to learn more about why you do the things that you do?And how to address some of the ways you unknowingly sabotage yourself?Other than learning to Trust, let’s take a look at some of the foundations of therapy.1. Trust – Something that we all struggle with, trust in others is a pretty tall order some days.Even more difficult, is trusting ourselves.Every day comes with new challenges and demands and it’s easy to put yourself last when the need calls for it — but always putting yourself last means you violate your own self-trust, time and time again.Learn to honor and trust yourself before you can trust others.Check out our online workshop on Learning to Trust.2. Self-awareness – It’s easy to wander through life without much direction, reacting to the world instead of purposely creating a life. This can lead to a feeling of not being seen or heard, and always feeling like you just fit in, instead of actually belonging. When you don’t know yourself very well, it can be hard to find the right friends or job to fulfill you and challenge you into new growth. Self-Awareness is a core focus of any therapeutic journey. Check out our Online Self-Awareness Workshop to learn more about yourself, and how you can align your life with who you truly are. 3. Self-Worth – It can be very difficult to establish and maintain boundaries that are meant to protect your peace when you’re constantly putting others before yourself. It isn’t bad to want to help others, but when your selflessness becomes a complete loss of self, it’s time to do some work on your own core values and boundaries. Learn how to show up as an advocate for yourself so you can give your loved ones empowered, resounding ‘yes’s and firm, healthy ‘no’s, without feeling guilty or selfish. Join our Boundary Badass Challenge on Instagram to build up your self-worth and finally love yourself as much as you love everyone else. The Truth About Therapy...Hey there, I’m Karen Watson, Licensed Trauma Therapist and Counselor, as well as life coach and personal yoga guru. It’s my mission to bring therapy to everyone, with remote access and online community support. Gone are the days when you lay on a couch and talk about your feelings with a nosey stranger.Modern therapy is designed to create self-awareness so you can better understand yourself, and to give you therapy tools so you can better manage some of the areas in your life where you’ve struggled in the past.I’ve been a guest on many podcasts, including “Beyond the Chaise,” and “You Owe It To You,” and you can find my new book, “The Beauty of Boundaries,” wherever books are sold.Build Your CommunityHere are some resources to help you on your therapeutic journey within yourself.1. Love a good life-hack? Check out my Youtube Channel, Beautiful Boundaries. Every week I share an actionable therapy tool to help you with anything from handling anxiety to creating safe space for difficult conversations, and everything in between. 2. Love a good motivational poster? Follow me on Instagram where I share uplifting messages and mindful meditations. 3. Don’t know where to begin but know that therapy is the right path for you? Book a call with me and we’ll discuss what kind of therapy we should focus on to help you find balance and ease in your life.Touch base and get groundedHead on over to your inbox to grab the free therapy tool I’ve already sent you to help you face your next challenge.Over the next few days, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help you achieve self-awareness and the growth that you’re more than ready for! “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”— Carl Rogers
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3.You should focus on... Self-AwarenessYou’re the unanimously voted Life of the Party, always ready to entertain and eager for the next challenge or new thing.When it comes to hidden talents, you have an embarrassment of riches, but having so many things come easily can be a disadvantage all by itself.Being a gifted Jack of All Trades can leave you adrift, wondering what your real passion and purpose in life is.For someone with such a seemingly strong sense of self, you can sometimes struggle with self-improvement, which can all be tied back to self-awareness. Or lack thereof.The real challenge for you is choosing the right life for you, instead of just accepting the life you find yourself easily falling into.How do you know if you’re aware enough to know you need to work on self-awareness?Tick some boxes with me. Do you:✅ Avoid sitting still or idle✅ Feel too overwhelmed by your past choices to learn from them, so you just try to ignore them✅ Want to find peace and contentment, but every time you’re almost there, panic sets in✅ Think vulnerability seems like a nice thing... for other people✅ Focus on career, relationships, and success, instead of yourself✅ Don’t trust yourself to learn from your mistakesIt’s ok, we all struggle with self-awareness sometimes, so if you don’t check any boxes, go back and try again, but be honest with yourself this time.“When I discover who I am, I’ll be free.”— Ralph EllisonGet To Know YourselfFoundations are the building blocks of fun!Therapy is an often misunderstood practice, and while it does involve talking about feelings, it’s more about taking a closer look inside yourself to see what really makes you tick.Don’t you want to learn more about why you do the things that you do?And how to address some of the ways you unknowingly sabotage yourself?Other than learning to Trust, let’s take a look at some of the foundations of therapy.1. Balance – The key to a happy life isn’t abundance and neverending chill days, it’s all about balance. The grind of day-to-day life can become a repetitive, life-sucking rut if you aren’t careful to create healthy boundaries between work, play, and the everyday. With the help of a therapist, you can delve deep into where your imbalances come in life, and how to make changes to restore a much needed life balance. Check out our online workshop on Balance and Your To-Do List2. Trust – Something that we all struggle with, trust in others is a pretty tall order some days.Even more difficult, is trusting ourselves.Every day comes with new challenges and demands and it’s easy to put yourself last when the need calls for it — but always putting yourself last means you violate your own self-trust, time and time again.Learn to honor and trust yourself before you can trust others.Check out our online workshop on Learning to Trust.Self-Awareness is a core focus of any therapeutic journey. Check out our Online Self-Awareness Workshop to learn more about yourself, and how you can align your life with who you truly are. 3. Self-Worth – It can be very difficult to establish and maintain boundaries that are meant to protect your peace when you’re constantly putting others before yourself. It isn’t bad to want to help others, but when your selflessness becomes a complete loss of self, it’s time to do some work on your own core values and boundaries. Learn how to show up as an advocate for yourself so you can give your loved ones empowered, resounding ‘yes’s and firm, healthy ‘no’s, without feeling guilty or selfish. Join our Boundary Badass Challenge on Instagram to build up your self-worth and finally love yourself as much as you love everyone else.The Truth About Therapy...Hey there, I’m Karen Watson, Licensed Trauma Therapist and Counselor, as well as life coach and personal yoga guru. It’s my mission to bring therapy to everyone, with remote access and online community support. Gone are the days when you lay on a couch and talk about your feelings with a nosey stranger.Modern therapy is designed to create self-awareness so you can better understand yourself, and to give you therapy tools so you can better manage some of the areas in your life where you’ve struggled in the past.I’ve been a guest on many podcasts, including “Beyond the Chaise,” and “You Owe It To You,” and you can find my new book, “The Beauty of Boundaries,” wherever books are sold.Build Your CommunityHere are some resources to help you on your therapeutic journey within yourself.1. Love a good life-hack? Check out my Youtube Channel, Beautiful Boundaries. Every week I share an actionable therapy tool to help you with anything from handling anxiety to creating safe space for difficult conversations, and everything in between.2. Love a good motivational poster? Follow me on Instagram where I share uplifting messages and mindful meditations.3. Don’t know where to begin but know that therapy is the right path for you? Book a call with me and we’ll discuss what kind of therapy we should focus on to help you find balance and ease in your life.Touch base and get groundedHead on over to your inbox to grab the free therapy tool I’ve already sent you to help you face your next challenge.Over the next few days, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help you achieve self-awareness and the growth that you’re more than ready for! “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”— Carl Rogers
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4.You should focus on... Self-WorthSupporting others is your calling in life, but sometimes you’re left feeling a bit stretched thin, and maybe even a bit unappreciated.For someone who loves to love others, it can feel jarring when the love turns into resentment.But that resentment is there to show you something very important.When your love and support leaves you feeling drained and angry, it’s time to look at your own worth and how you can align yourself to get what you want, and what you truly deserve.You see, as a loving, supportive person, it’s easy for others to take advantage of your huge and expressive heart.You might find yourself agreeing to things that you don’t really want to do because you’re selfless enough to put others first.But why does that mean you so often have to come in last?Are you guilty of being a chronic people pleaser?Let’s tick some boxes! If you:✅ Know that having low self-worth is a problem, but are lost at how to fix it✅ Have a seriously hard time saying ‘no’✅ Are always the first to volunteer, even if you don’t have the space for it✅ Struggle to make good decisions for yourself but feel stuck✅ Know you deserve better but still have uncertainty✅ Struggle with feedback and feel like everyone is criticizing you✅ Feel like you can’t do anything right✅ Want to feel loved but don’t believe it’s in the cards for you✅ Want to identify the barriers to regaining your own self worthIf you tick a few of those boxes, chances are good you could use some self-worth, and a whole lotta self-love.“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”– BuddhaGet To Know YourselfFoundations are the building blocks of fun!Therapy is an often misunderstood practice, and while it does involve talking about feelings, it’s more about taking a closer look inside yourself to see what really makes you tick.Don’t you want to learn more about why you do the things that you do?And how to address some of the ways you unknowingly sabotage yourself?Other than learning to Trust, let’s take a look at some of the foundations of therapy.1. Balance – The key to a happy life isn’t abundance and neverending chill days, it’s all about balance. The grind of day-to-day life can become a repetitive, life-sucking rut if you aren’t careful to create healthy boundaries between work, play, and the everyday. With the help of a therapist, you can delve deep into where your imbalances come in life, and how to make changes to restore a much needed life balance. Check out our online workshop on Balance and Your To-Do List2. Self-awareness – It’s easy to wander through life without much direction, reacting to the world instead of purposely creating a life. This can lead to a feeling of not being seen or heard, and always feeling like you just fit in, instead of actually belonging. When you don’t know yourself very well, it can be hard to find the right friends or job to fulfill you and challenge you into new growth. Self-Awareness is a core focus of any therapeutic journey. Check out our Online Self-Awareness Workshop to learn more about yourself, and how you can align your life with who you truly are. 3. Trust – Something that we all struggle with, trust in others is a pretty tall order some days.Even more difficult, is trusting ourselves.Every day comes with new challenges and demands and it’s easy to put yourself last when the need calls for it — but always putting yourself last means you violate your own self-trust, time and time again.Learn to honor and trust yourself before you can trust others.Check out our online workshop on Learning to Trust.The Truth About Therapy...Hey there, I’m Karen Watson, Licensed Trauma Therapist and Counselor, as well as life coach and personal yoga guru. It’s my mission to bring therapy to everyone, with remote access and online community support. Gone are the days when you lay on a couch and talk about your feelings with a nosey stranger.Modern therapy is designed to create self-awareness so you can better understand yourself, and to give you therapy tools so you can better manage some of the areas in your life where you’ve struggled in the past.I’ve been a guest on many podcasts, including “Beyond the Chaise,” and “You Owe It To You,” and you can find my new book, “The Beauty of Boundaries,” wherever books are sold.Build Your CommunityHere are some resources to help you on your therapeutic journey within yourself.1. Love a good life-hack? Check out my Youtube Channel, Beautiful Boundaries. Every week I share an actionable therapy tool to help you with anything from handling anxiety to creating safe space for difficult conversations, and everything in between. 2. Love a good motivational poster? Follow me on Instagram where I share uplifting messages and mindful meditations. 3. Don’t know where to begin but know that therapy is the right path for you? Book a call with me and we’ll discuss what kind of therapy we should focus on to help you find balance and ease in your life. Touch base and get groundedHead on over to your inbox to grab the free therapy tool I’ve already sent you to help you face your next challenge.Over the next few days, I'll be sharing more ideas with you to help you achieve self-awareness and the growth that you’re more than ready for! “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.”— Carl Rogers
